Why is everyone so judgemental?

[mr. black]

It seems like no one can ever just accept people for who they are. If someone suffers from depression, or anxiety, or is just simply shy, people will find any excuse to abandon them and reject their friendship. As soon as people see that you have any kind of issue, no matter how small it is, they won't even give you a chance. It wasn't always that way. People use to be able to accept people for being a certain way. Most of the time it seems like people are more likely to accept and tolerate the abusive, selfish jackass than the shy, tender person who has a difficulty trusting anyone because they've been abandoned all their life.

We all judge each other for the dumbest reasons. I don't know if social media is to blame, since making friends online has become so much easier, that for our friends in real life we hold out for only perfection.

It's really sad. I have a vision that a lot of people are going to end up alone than ever before because of the high standards people have.
What's the difference?

[Golden Brown]

I'm judgmental about people, not individuals.

[Golden Brown]

I know exactly how u feel I had a woman I befriended betray me cuz she saw me as shy and quiet and it hurt but don't worry about it just be ur self and do jihad in self defense against these anti shy/social anxiety ignorant kaffirs

[Yahoo user]

Judgmental what are you nut-head a physiologist your bookworm flake.

[Casey]

ik its sad. Really sad. I dont understand it at all.

[Yoink]

Because no one wants to deal with that.

Life is full of drama. I'd rather deal with an asshole that has his shit together (or can at least fake it) than some wimpy little whiner who needs me to hold them together. I've got my own problems and I don't have the time, energy, or interest to fix someone else's. Less drama = less stress

[Olga]

Hi Mr. Black,

Agree with your observation - we're very judgmental and it got worse.
The reason of our alienation and lack of interest in other, especially "weak" people, is our over-grown egoism. It got to the point where we cannot afford to leave it unattended and have to do something about it. Otherwise many people indeed can end up alone without any support form close ones or society in general.
We're born egoists, self-concern is instilled in us from birth so we excerpt conscious effort in correcting it. This is what Nature expects from us and will keep provoking us to take steps toward correction of our behavior.

The change obviously should start in education. Now it's our turn to "instill" something new in ourselves. Reformed education should convey and advocate for humanism and for all our values changed toward mutual acceptance and support (mutual being a key word).
http://www.mutualresponsibility.org/educ...solidarity

There is community of people exploring this idea. You'll find many interesting materials in their web-site. Try to fin some time to brows it. I believe this is a direction we should take. All the best!

http://www.mutualresponsibility.org/

[rockyjr5]

It all depends on what type of judgement people gives others, and to be honest there are others who judges someone in a positive way, for example if someone only judges others by their personality than that person will think and say good things about you, and if someone judges you by everything else besides personality than they will treat you badly. The do this because society brainwashes them, telling them to be look and dress like everyone else, that isn't wrong to be yourself, it's wrong to be comfortable, tells them to basic their life on what others thinks and says about them, tells them money get get them everything that they want in life, tells them to not go out of their way to help others because people might give that person weird looks, and talk smack about that person. Society also tells them that have to do whatever it takes to be popular by wearing the clothes that the fashion experts wants them to wear and look the way that the fashion experts want them to look. That's why I'm proud to be an outcast, because I'm not afraid to stand up to the rich and fashionable class aka society and say no to it, because I don't basic my life on what others says and thinks of me, I believe in myself, I don't allow others to get the best of me, and I care more about helping making the world a better place than what others negatively words and thoughts towards me. I look a certain way and dress a certain way to please myself not others, and that's how I'm going to look and dress until I die, and better yet I'm going to die in those clothes, and have that same look. I also know that money can't get you everything , it sure can't buy you happiest. Money doesn't make the world go around only love does that. No matter what you say, what you think, how you look, how you dress etc you can't make everyone in the world happy, so just be yourself, and don't worry about what others thinks and says about you.