Why is my 'bestie' acting like this? shes changed since we started highschool!?

[XxVerXx]

My bestfriend and i were friends in primary school and became especially close last year. We always told eachother everything and i would be the first one she would always invite to things. At the beginning of high school every thing was normal, but then after the third week everything suddenly changed. She was always trying to get away from me, she started calling me embarrasing and annoying. I told a mutual friend and she asked her why she was being like that but she denied that she was, and then she was being so negative all the time. She use to be the one who always cheered us up and now shes always so down. I tried talking to her on Facebook but she said she cant be bothered. And shes always caring about popularity. She never talks to me anymore. When she does its so formal. Its only the fifth week of highschool and shes successfully distancing herself from me. Also, there was someone we both hated, but now she says that person is actually pretty cool. Why is she being like this?

[Mikki]

It is not unusual for friends to grow apart especially at your age. Sounds like she is trying to fit in with a new group of people. Limit your contact with her and let her go. In high school you have plenty of chances to make all new friends.

[880]

As her friend, you're not living up to her 'new' expectations. Like she said, she thinks of you as embarrassing and wants to hang out with 'better' looking people. Meaning, she's seeking to be popular. She, thinks there's some higher level of socializing and status that she can achieve if only she'd distance away from you and try new elements.

What this really sounds like is peer pressure. She's in a very new environment and high school is often very overrated and overly hyped up, especially in TV shows. Sometimes being in a new place or situation WILL change people.

In my opinion, I honestly wouldn't bother with her at all. You have already tried getting through to her a couple of times and it's not working. This is not your problem to fix, it's hers. SHE should be the one doing all the patching up. And if she can't respect you and instead takes you for granted and all of the sudden sees you as insignificant, then she has no right to be in your life as a friend. Love yourself and respect yourself enough to stop and say "'this isn't right, I don't deserve this." I don't really care how long the friendship has last. Once that friend gets out of line, it's no longer an excuse and just because she's a friend does not mean you have to put up with it.

Branch off for now and be with your other friends or make new friends. Maybe once she finds out that reality is tough to avoid, she might come back, but if she does, you set her straight and tell her to never treat you that way again.

***EDIT***
I'm not sure what you want me or others to say. The only thing I can suggest is to just wait it out. But you're also disrespecting yourself by allowing her to mistreat you like this.

[XxVerXx]

Please don't tell me to let go. I want to become friends again, and i want her to tell me why shes being like this. We have, or had, so much fun together its not fair to say just let go.

[Olivia]

Ok, girl problems. This is completely normal. Nd every girl goes through this. Especially in high school. Girls tend to care more about being popular. Some girls start changing their hair everyday, caring bout how they look so they even wear make up. You know what? Just let her mind her own business. I reckon there's no point on finding out y she's doing this. It's just too complicated. Ull dieeee. No I'm serious. This happened to me before nd wen I decided to just leave it alone she just walked off. She chose her own path way nd I did so too. Maybe if u just leave it alone she'll think about it for a while then apologise. But most of the time they don't... My friend didn't. So yeh just mind ur own business nd she can mind her own too nd she will decide what to do.
Good luck

[Heythere]

This is a fact of high school believe it or not. It sounds to me that she is trying too hard to fit in. I had a friend who did the same thing, only it was in my senior year of high school. The only thing you can do is move on with your own life. You can't want a friendship more than the other party. Trust me, it will save you and her a ton of time and heart break if you just let it go. However, if she does ever reach out to you for whatever reason do what you think is best. My best friend stopped talking to me completely in high school, but the summer after we graduated we reconnected. Sure the bond isn't as tight as it was before, but I have new friends now that haven't left me behind. You just have to learn to adapt.

[Linda Ken]

Give her time and space to deal with it..if she really is your friend she will come back to you