Anyone got advice or experiences to share about relationships with a somewhat-famous person?

[Linda]

Just looking for advice, or even experiences that some of ya'll might have to tell about dating or trying to get with a somewhat- famous person. By somewhat-famous I mean someone that isn't exactly famous but he does perform at charity events, and things like that. He can still go places without people noticing him, so he's not a celebrity or anything like that yet. I need advice because I know people in his lifestyle are so used to fans saying things like " your so hot, I wanna marry you one day" & things like that. I don't plan on no marriage with anyone anytime soon in my life. But, I've been through a lot with guys breakin' my heart. & This guy I'm talking about is an amazing person inside & out. Just from the few things I know about him, and yes I know a lot of people are probably going to say well you have to get to know him more in order to know what he's really like & yes I know that, that's with any relationship. I'm not a fan of his I don't listen to his music I've only heard a few of his songs he writes. I just heard friends talking about him, and searched him up. We seem to have a lot in common & he's the kind of guy I could see myself with. I am not trying to use him for what he has I want a totally different career then he has. He's about 2 years older than me. My friends keep telling me if I believe then I should go for it because he's not a celebrity so I have more of a chance. Plus, he does respond to almost all of his fans on facebook & instagram. So I look at that as a plus that I'll have a better chance of him actually writing back. Please don't say anything rude I'm just looking for advice so I know how to go about this. Thanks!

[Bobbin]

Unless you share the same talents or interests or legitimately travel in the same circle or have mutual friends, your chances of breaking the entertainer-groupie barrier are unlikely. However, miracles sometimes happen. But usually not for stalkers.

Tangentially related: MAD-TV had a sketch once where a woman doctor was accosted by Barry Williams, "Greg" of the Brady Bunch, who was just now catching up on his fan mail and wanted her to make good on the passionate love letter she wrote to him 30 years ago as a 12 year old!

[Maverick]

Just ask him his name, and if he hesitates or says he wants to remain anonymous, ask in tones of wonderment: "Could your name be Rumpelstiltskin ?

[Paul]

Dear Linda, Please realize that such a guy is always an "actor" meaning that for the sake of his artistic career
he must appear always smiling, looking "cool" and the most attractive. His being is NOT what you see of him, he can be nice or nasty, but the nasty side of him nobody knows , except people who have to work with him. What I want to say is he's an "ILLUSION" he looks on stage "THE PERFECT GUY" if you want to get a next disaster in your life then follow his footsteps.
BTW - these types of guys can't be seen with a steady GF, as then many girls will turn their back to him! and since he must have many fans, he's not ready to risk that.........

[esmerelda]

If you get any such stories, you can bet that 99.9999999999% of them will be the fan-fiction fantasies of fevered minds.

Apart from rock-band groupies, people who have relationships with famous people are often valued for their ability to respect the other person's privacy.

"I am not trying to use him for what he has I want a totally different career then he has."

No, you're trying to use him to fulfill your fantasies that a 'sort of famous person' is better and sexier than ordinary people. Not the case. They tend to have more money and less privacy... personally that would be a deal-breaker for me because you don't realize how precious privacy is until you go out to get your mail and find some asshat with a camera. I've known a couple of people who lived in the public eye and it's not a good place to live.