should i visit my ex to see if its ment to be.?

[amelia mila]

I got with a guy summer 2010,I need up falling in love with him. I met him during a summer vacation so when I went back home I thought I would never b with him again.I fell n love with someone else (my now bf).My ex ened up finding me on Fb, I was happy with my new bf that I pushed the other guy away.I moved n with him my senior year and we got pregnant. When we brought our baby home from the hospital I borrowed his phone 2 set an alarm every 2 hours 2 check on the baby. My curiosity got the best of me and I found out tat he was obsessed with some girl( he had pictures, her facebook profile bookmark). Since Oct of last year we've been fighting.sometimes we have fights over stupid stuff and it gets violent. I hate our relationship and I've had so many chances 2 leave him but I can't. I'm 2 attached to him.a few months ago I had a message from my ex, he still loves me and I love him. I really want 2 go see him, but think it's a bad idea.I just want 2 see him.I'm always thinking of him.

[Jay]

You are like a ship tossed in the waves of the sea. The wind blows you here, there, everywhere - no direction. That's what life is like when you are led by your emotions and when you believe that relationships are based on feelings alone. Feelings change like the weather. It's no coincidence that you want to go see your ex since your current relationship is having trouble. Rather than work at the relationship, wouldn't it be nice to just have romantic bliss again? Problem is that if you got back together with your ex, you'd find that either the same problems came back again, or new ones resurfaced and that's because problems are innate to human relationships. If your belief is that you need a new relationship everytime you find a problem in the current one, your life will be an endless string of broken relationships.

That being said, if your current relationship is abusive, you need to get out of that unless and until things can calm down for your safety and your child's safety. But the last thing in the world you need right now is a new relationship. A relationship isn't the answer to your problems.

[Jay]

Ok first of all you need to leave your current bf.. He is obviously not a good bf and you're unhappy. Just leave him. Easier said than done but it can be done... I see no reason why your'e putting up with it.

As for the ex, yes it's a terrible idea becuase you aren't single right now so what's the point of meeting up with him if you are still with your current bf and you can't be with the ex anyway. I would straigthen out the current situation first before you go get yourself in a bigger mess....

[J]

You are miserable in the current relationship, apparently. But, you should leave for the sake of not being happy, not because you entertain thoughts of your ex. End what you are in now. THEN go ahead and look up the ex. With a baby, who knows if it will be something he is open to. Maybe, maybe not. Either way, your priorities should be getting your own place to live and taking care of that baby... Not chasing guys. Not trying to be mean. But, as a parent now, you need to have your ducks in a row before worrying about reconnecting with the ex.