What can we do about porn?

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Hi everyone,

I thought about having this discussion today as every where I go now'a days everyone from the age of 12 and onwards are talking about sex as if it were a every day thing. It's on the news, news papers, magazines, forums etc.

In my opinion, I find porn to be very dangerous. My reasons are:
1) Woman are being seen as meat.
2) Children are watching it.
3) Terrible crimes have been committed because of it.
4) Women and young girls are left feeling insecure and have to live up to these false expectations.
5) Marriages/relationships are being ruined.
6) Trust issues.
7) Sexual diseases.
8) Porn/sex addiction for children as young as (NINE years old) Children are seeking medical help from their addiction from it!
9) Illegal porn.
10) Loosing money.
11) Developing dangerous sex fantasies and fetishes.
12) Cannot be intimate with a real partner.

Everywhere you go all you see now is SEX. Even today's music is about sex, the lovely music about women like "My Girl" and "Honey" is all gone and is now replaced with "Shake that ass, suck my penis." And "Down these bitches bow/ These females cry".

It is sad and just revolting and not just for women but for men too. Today, men are to be expected to act "ghetto" or be a rich man that drives a Jaguar to get a woman. Perfume ads for example. Herbal Essence advert with the woman from Pussy Cat dolls moaning with pleasure during the day while young infants and older children are watching. MILF of the day and OMG she squats groups on Facebook for children to access or women's husbands and the W.A.N.K bank for women.

A dog, an insect knows what sex is and yet we have it rammed in our faces every day? Our young girls to grow up having this on their shoulders. The amount of self suicides that girls commit every year because of it and young boys having to go and get professional help to have their sex addiction sorted. Sex is no longer secretive and sacred any more, it's EVERYWHERE and it is very offensive and DANGEROUS.

I used to be a porn watcher myself but as time went by, I have later realised ( a little too late) of the dangerous of it.

A line has to be made, because if not then ANYTHING and EVERYTHING is acceptable.

We seem to forget that we have real partners that love us, but if we're tired or that they're not in the mood we go and have toss when they're in bed or what ever? What the difference when we look at another woman naked on a screen, telling us how much she wants us and we want her. How we desire this woman and want to screw her so bad- isn't that just another form of cheating on our other half? We're mentally cheating! The only person we should be getting aroused over is our lovers. Then we have strip clubs and what not, and just recently I just drove past a strip club for women and the parking lot was rammed packed with women saying they told their husbands that they have went to bingo but are not.

Porn is easy to get too, anyone get porn, it's only a click away and we have it.

And please don't get me wrong, if you and your partner both like porn and watch it together than that is fine but we ALL know that our women are secretly hurt that we do. Let's not lie to ourselves here, if we all had a magic wand we would turn our wives and girlfriends into these porn girls wouldn't we? I used to think that but I was an idiot and now I am regretting it.

My question is to everyone, including to people that like porn. Put yourselves to the side just for one second and let me ask this question,

What can we do about porn?

I think for starters that porn should not be easy to get hold onto. That the only way you can get it is by buying it on an online porn store or sex shop. I also think the TV should cut the crap out, with the ads and music videos. And, I think there should be a sex education programme about porn at schools. A group of girls and boys to go to if they have any questions, and more awareness about porn all over the world for everyone. I also think there should be a limit on make-up that young girls should be wearing and that hair extensions should be banned, because I swear some of these young girls look around their 20's when they're really 13 or 14. As stupid as it sounds but they should be asked for ID when they buy cosmetics and tarty clothes.

And for all the guys and women that watch porn and that will obviously get defensive upon reading my question etc, Ask yourself this question.... how would you feel if your daughter was one of these girls? Or that your partner rather watching porn, watching hot guys/women, desiring them and wanting them than having those feelings for you?

I will be looking forward to seeing your suggestions on this.

Cheers
Can people stop adding things like religion into this? Because if that were the case everyone would be adding everything and anything into it like smoking/drinking/eating. I am asking what can we do about the dangers of porn and I agree, porn does some good for people but the good is very small compared to the bad.
I agree with you Alan
To Lily.... I have studied the problems of porn and your points are kind of invalid. (No disrespect) Dangerous fetishes like fcking your girl while she is asleep? That is called RAPE. Fantasies such as fake rape pornos, that is dangerous. I can go on. I can agree on some romance novels to be honest with you, they can be just as bad as the porn but I have provided you all with facts, I can even give you statistics if you'd like. If you and your man don't have a problem with porn than that is great, but do not bring children into this as you have clearly stated in your comment about educating them with porn. That is terrible and not "open minded".
People seem to forget we're not "cavemen" any more. And Tundra, yes nine year olds are having professional help with their addiction. Go onto Youtube and search for that channel 4 programme about porn addiction. It's only a few months old.

[BabeHart]

Not sure what your question is regarding marriage or divorce...

If you don't care for porn then don't watch it...religion is responsible for even more negative events and attitudes than porn, yet it's still around...

Sex sells...parents who teach their kids good values and morals stand a better chance of having their kids grow up with better attitudes about sex than those parents who let the media raise their kids and teach them about sex and morality...

[PatrickT]

agree with you

[starfish]

As with anyone who thinks that their opinion should change the world, I suggest that you seek some form of therapy.

I would say the same if you were trying to enforce anything, from vitamins to fresh air.

All we can do is raise our children to do what we think is best.

That's really it, as far as changing the world goes.

For how awful would it be if an opinion on morality carried with it some sort of legal right?

Look to third world countries for inspiration.

[Alan]

I wanted to make jokes about this question but for once in your life you finally hit a factual point. Congratulations for being right just once in your life.

"What can we do about porn? "
--Porn industry generates a lot of money, therefore it is difficult to shut it down.

This is just my opinion but porn degrades women, there are a few pornstars who do it because they like it. There are many who do it because they have no way to financially earn money so this was their only route.

"I think for starters that porn should not be easy to get hold onto."
--Bold statement but nobody will consider this, porn does no life damage as guns would. It is only designed to mentally disturb or damage an individual.

"I also think the TV should cut the crap out, with the ads and music videos. "
-- AGREE but sex sells

"I also think there should be a limit on make-up that young girls should be wearing and that hair extensions should be banned, because I swear some of these young girls look around their 20's when they're really 13 or 14.'
-- More than this, they should dress appropriately, some wear too much revealing clothes.


"how would you feel if your daughter was one of these girls? Or that your partner rather watching porn, watching hot guys/women, desiring them and wanting them than having those feelings for you?"
--It would be simply disturbing.


Although, there are some benefits of porn, say performance in bed. You can try new ways to spice up your sex life. Stress reliever, masturbation. Other than that I can't think of anything else.

I don't know what you can do to stop porn but as an individual you can take self control. From my experience it is a very difficult route to take because you have self urges that trigger and you are immediately tempted to watch it again. Not to mention it only damages relationship with your partner.

You could just find a hobby, keep yourself busy and stay with friend to avoid pornography.



EDIT: not sure if I clarified clearly but I am against pornography. I only listed 2 benefits but other than that it is bad for an individual and couples.

[Jery E]

ah porn aint so bad.

[Doper.]

I agree to you to an extent, you have valid points.

However, porn is an industry, to stimulate people, it is an option for people who are not lucky enough to have a partner.

I think the only trouble with teenage boys today is they think any girl they see will be as kinky as the girl they saw in the porno last night which isn't true. But that is the case of being mature and understanding porn is a substitute to stimulating ourselves.

[Linda M]

You are right, all of these things are a problem, and we are being exposed more and more to it via the media and internet.

But, there isn't much you can do about it except teach your children to respect themselves and not be influenced by the things they see around them. If they are good decent kids they will make up their own minds about all of this stuff.

Don't think that things are worse these days, think about the dark ages or even just two hundred years ago - life has improved immensly - wars are less, disease has been reduced, the rights of people are now being heard and women are gaining more equality.

Even when Jesus was alive there were prostitutes. People used to sleep with their own sisters and murder each other to gain position and power....

You just have to stand up for your own choices in life and let everyone else choose how they want to live. As long as you are doing what is right for your own consience - that's all you can do, or keep telling people how you feel and some of it may rub off.

[Tundra]

What can "we" do about porn? DON'T LOOK AT IT if it bothers you so! Most all of of the negative aspects of porn that you cited as just plain false! Nine year old children being treated for their addiction to porn!?! PLEASE! Just because YOU don't like it, you DO NOT get to dictate what the rest of us get to see! As for a negative impact on society? There are finger paintings on cave walls from the time of Neanderthal man depicting sexual activities between men and women....women and women.....men and men.....and humans with animals for gosh sake. Yet here we are (:->)

[spanneroi]

my husband's porn addiction lead to him acting out and eventually our marriage falling apart I personally believe it is dangerous