Sharing Facebook passwords? I am so confused!?

[M]

Last week my boyfriend gave me his Facebook password because he believes there is no such thing as privacy in a relationship, and he felt that by giving me this privilege I would feel special. He also stated that he didn’t want my password, but rather just wanted me to feel special about having access to his. I was aware that he used to share his password with his female best friends as well, so I told him, I didn’t really see this as a privilege because he seems relatively open about Facebook password. He got upset, and was disappointed that I didn’t indeed feel special, but later got over it. Well, I have his password, but I have not logged in. I haven’t logged in because 1) he doesn’t have my password which makes things seem unequal 2) because I’m afraid I’ll see something I won’t like, and might end up misconstruing it. All of this is giving me a headache, and I seriously cannot decide whether sharing passwords is healthy for a relationship or not. I want to discuss this with him but don’t know what to say or how to go about this situation.

[whisperdawg]

I believe in a certain amount of privacy...or personal space. I've been married for 22-years and I don't feel comfortable with my wife or anyone else standing over my shoulder as I type on the computer, view videos, etc...It could be innocent enough activity, i.e. watching American Idol on Youtube, or sports highlights, etc...but that is my time, and should be respected as such. I return the same amount of personal space and privacy in return.

[Isabel]

Well, your boyfriend is wrong. Privacy IS important in any relationship. His privilege to you is a way of showing off - he's a jerk, he's manipulative. And by the way, do not give him your password - that allows anyone to spy on you - you NEVER want to let someone do that.