I used to be cool but then I lost my friends and now I'm not. Help!?

[em]

Up until a couple of months ago I had a ton of friends, guys liked me, and I went to parties. I was part of this group of about 5 other girls and I was kinda the leader of the group, but suddenly one day they all turned on me and decided they hated me. One of the girls said they should kick me out of the group, but I thought that would never happen because I stayed friends with all the other girls except that one after the fight. But recently, I have no idea why, all of them, including my best friend, decided to ditch me. The group always hangs out without me and then shoves it in my face with instagram and snapchat. When the girls see me in the hallway, they ignore me. It hurts so bad and I have no idea what I did. Plus, the majority of the new friends I made this year now apparently think I'm a loser too and no one will talk to me. I have no idea what happened. I used to be part of the cool crowd and now I'm alone a lot and no one likes me anymore. Guys don't talk to me like they used to, I ALWAYS have to text people first to hang out and even they generally say they "can't", and I hardly get any likes on my facebook or instagram pictures (I used to get a lot). I feel like such a loser and I have no idea why they ditched me so easily, especially because they were my best friends. What can I do? I'm sick of feeling like this and having everyone now hate me.

[ana rose]

Wow...mean! Being abandoned by all your friends overnight sounds downright traumatic. High school and middle school (don't know how old you are) can be so cut throat like that. There will always be people at the bottom, and always people at the top, and everyone else is somewhere in between doing their best to liked and respected. It sounds like in your situation, you did nothing wrong. It was a major power play by your friends (Survivor style!), and they're feeling pretty "on top" now. I'm sure that the power they're experiencing right now from watching everyone follow their lead in rejecting you outweighs any guilt they might feel from seeing you suffer. Or they may feel completely justified in their cruel actions and feel no guilt at all. Either way, you're on the outside now. Hold your head high and try to find joy where you can. See if you can start branching out to other people who you wouldn't have considered hanging out with before. Keep your mind open. If you get further tormented by others out of the dissatisfaction that you're not letting yourself be a victim, this confirms that they are truly vicious people and you should be GLAD to see the light and be out of their presence.

Remember what they say...when one door closes, another door opens. This could be an opportunity to explore a whole new side of yourself. Good luck!