Adult Cyber-bullying?

[Evy]

Since 2010 my daughter (she is 22 years old now) has been harassed, bullied and threatened on facebook by my ex husband's current wife (which he is currently separated from). I along with my 16 year old son has been harassed by her as well ..... As recent as this weekend. Police say they can't do anything about it because there is no proof that it is the current wife doing this. What she is doing is making up fake facebook pages (this weekend she made one of my exhusband.). She then request my son accept her as a friend, and because he thought this was his father, he accepted. Then she began a tirade of abuse.

My daughter went to the current wife home to ask her to stop. The wife called the police and my daughter was arrested. The wife lied and said my daughter had a 12 inch knife on her...which was a lie.

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO PROVE SHE IS BEHIND THIS?

[ANTI-ANIMAL ABUSE]

Call the cops.
Just ignore them there called Trolls and like to hurt people.

[Rose D]

Start by finding a lawyer, preferably one who has experience with this kind of case. Even if you can't press criminal charges you may be able to get them in civil court. The lawyer will have access to computer specialists who can help make the case. A PI may also be useful.

[ArcadianStormcrow]

A lawyer can probably help, a restraining order might be a good idea. Also, contact Facebook - they aren't too fond of people using their system to abuse others, so they can help her configure her system to block that sort of activity.

[raspyDreamer845]

OK, so if police say it can't be proven that it is "HER".. then there is still -someone- or several someones that are harassing these people.
Unfortunately, FB (and local PD) are understaffed , and usually don't take these things seriously.
You need to make a case that they cannot ignore.

It may take months just to get her to stop.. longer if you want to get a Restraining Order, criminal penalty, or lawsuit.. but it can be done. just Google for "Facebook harassment"

Record everything. Saved screenshots, email yourself copies, save them on CD with info about time and date.
Report every episode to both Facebook and to Police. As soon as possible when it happens.. even if that means midnight or 2AM. If your Police are like mine, that means getting dressed and walking in to the PD station.
Do not leave until they let you file a report, at least a complaint (they may send you to court for this).. or a "desk ticket".. just a report number with no paperwork.

You want to say something like Jane/John Doe(s) aka SillYScreenName did ( at time and date) engage in Cyber-Bullying (or whatever law is in your place) in violation of State Penal code 1234 section AB sub 3, by performing the following act/s: .... blah ... and blah.... and furthermore blah..


Record and save a copy of every report / complaint / desk ticket.. or even a note " I spoke to desk Sergeant Roberts at 11:01 PM on Tuesday, February 30th about the incident that same night. He told me to go home and forget about it. At the time, I also saw officers brown, smith.. etc in the precinct desk area. The TV was on, and this show was on.. etc.

If the Facebook creeps ever do respond to you, then take a copy of that and follow up with Police.
If you get a complaint or report number from Police, follow up with Facebook.

Note this stuff, also.

Once you have 4 or 5 of these complaints in both systems, someone will realize you are not the average sheep.. and they will have to do something to get you to stop coming in.
It's as simple as Police asking Facebook (or subpoena to FB) for any logs of (Screenname) during the period you complained. If the address all comes back to one computer - or one ISP..
(then they ask ISP for info) .. you want to see that it came from one computer, or 2-3 machines.. maybe home, work, library.

Then they can seize / (search warrant) the computer, and search for info.

If you get as far as 7 or 8 before anyone does something, then during normal business hours, ask to speak to ( City Councilman, Mayor, Sheriff, Chief of PD, or at least a Detective supervisor or Precinct Captain ) present them with your files, (copy!!) and ask them if they can get something done.

Keep collecting data, take notes of anyone you speak to, and keep insisting on climbing to the next supervisor.. right up to your State Attorney General and FBI if you get to 12 or 14 of these.


Keep in mind - it may have started already.. everything done on your household's behalf.. like your son/daughter.. and your behavior online and in "meat-space" will be carefully watched, too.
Avoid contact with these folks at all costs.
Do not speak to them at all.
Do not answer back to the bully(s).
Avoid any conflicts.. even with other folks who you may not even suspect.
.. I mean you know it's HER.. but there is a small chance that she has help with other crazies you may not know about.

If possible, get the complaint / arrest of your daughter resolved.. and if practical, file a "false report" complaint against HER. You have just as much evidence that she lied as she does that your daughter had 12 inch knife. (I assume.. it should be "(s)he said/ (s)he said") - both should get thrown out, and judge may tell you to stay away from each other.

If you just want the abuse to stop, ask kids to close accounts, open new.. and they can tell close friends & family about it. FB is too easy to make bullying happen. I say it, but I know it won't happen.. just say NO to FB.

and.. if this person is THAT crazy to go after your children because of her lost man.. someone else probably already knows she is THAT crazy, too. It won't be long before she gets what is coming to her. Please try to avoid that crap storm because she'll pull anyone she can into it with her.

Formula:
She wants attention, particularly from ex-Dad.
He's not fulfilling her wants, so she attacks his children.
= she is still getting some attention, no matter how perverse from him and his family.

Keep the kids and yourself clear. She is a nut.

**** I'm certifiably crazy, and these are just my own opinions and drugged- rants. Talk to a professional before you use any advice that I spew. ****