How do I know if this girl likes me or if she is just being friendly?

[Erin]

I am currently attending college as a music major and I am a percussionist. One day this girl randomly walked up to me in the locker room at the rec center and asked if I was a percussionist and I said yes and asked if she was a music major and she said she was. The conversation lasted about 3 minutes. Then later I saw her a couple of times at school and we had a few conversations. We had Spring Break last week, and she sent me an email to my school email address asking if I wanted to hang out over Spring Break and then gave me her number. I texted her and said I wanted to hang out, and she asked if I wanted to get something to eat or go for coffee , or go to see a movie (typical date things). We ended up going to see a musical that was playing at the theatre down the street and she asked if we wanted to get coffee before, and we did.

I am an openly gay female, so it's not a secret that I'm into women. The music department at my school is very small, so I'm basically the only lesbian there and almost everyone knows me for it, but I don't know if she knows. I had never talked to this girl before she came up to me in the locker room. She's very shy and quiet, so randomly walking up to a stranger doesn't seem like something she would normally do, but when I asked her why she did it she said she likes to meet new people and I seemed like a cool person to meet. When we were hanging out she mentioned something about a boyfriend she once had who had a silly name, but that was all she said about it. I asked her if she had a Facebook and she said no because she didn't really care to have one, but then she made one and friended me. Her profile says interested in men though. I can't tell if she flirts with me or not because she's so quiet. I'm so confused. And I'm afraid to ask her because if she is straight and thinks I want more than a friendship, then it might end up scaring her off. I don't want to do that because she could be a good friend too. How do I know if she's into me or if she's just trying to make a new friend?

[Drew]

It seems like you guys have gotten to know each other fairly well. I'd suggest maybe bringing up your sexual preference with her sometime. Ask her if she knows you are gay. She may respond by saying she didn't know. In that case, maybe she just wants a friend. If she is aware of it, you may be able to tell by her body language what her intentions are. She may even admit to you that she is gay too, in which case that to me would be a pretty good indication of what she wants. In any case, unless you are sure she is into you that way, making a move may cause you to lose a friend, so tread lightly.

[Yasin]

just friends that all.
tell her truth later when bond between both strong.
first show how much you care about her.

[Anthony]

Well you could start subtly flirting with her and see if she reciprocates. If she does then you can escalate a little more and see if she reciprocates again. If she keeps reciprocating your advances I'm pretty sure it means she wants you. However, you've got to start out small. You should also indirectly inquire about her relationships and what she's into. That can also help you figure this out. Even if she's never been with a girl before and she prefers men though, it doesn't mean it's a lost cause. I would just start out by being there for her and being a good friend. It'll help her become attracted to you and more willing to try something with you.