I found things belonging to a female in my boyfriends flat?

[Kim]

I have been seeing a Gemini man for 4 years. Recently I found a number of things at his flat that do not belong to me and I would appreciate some advice from both males and females.

Female curly brown hair all over his flat and on his clothes

Face wipes, brown hair bobble and passport photos of a woman with curly hair on one shelf in his wardrobe.

He has three phones of which I have only one mobile number, he keeps all of his phones very private. I asked him in a sarcastic tone what all of the hair was about and he said what hair. He does not know I have found the stuff in the wardrobe.

I want to approach this in the right way and although I am shocked, hurt and very angry I also want to leave with my self respect so need something really smart to catch him out on so it doesn't turn into a huge argument.

Please help!!!!!
Thanks for the responses to far. I made my decision as soon as I found the items there is not a chance in hell I would want to be with someone who does not respect me.

I plan on confronting him face to face at the earliest opportunity. I have no need for explanations or apologies!

I am looking forward to saying the words 'It's over' as I have already started to distance myself from him.

[LaughN Pantha]

First of all why are you afraid to turn this into an argument? Obviously sometthing is going on and you need answers and to be treated with respect. You know what you want and don't be afraid to demand it. You don't need to worry about embarrassing yourself. If you end up losing him, why give a damn? You NEED a man who will care for you, respect you, and listens to you when you'll say "I'm the only one and it should stay that way!" You don't need anything smart to say, BE YOU and BE BRAVE. Kick him in the nuts if you have to!

If you want you can plan on pranking him with your friend's help, then post on facebook to embarrass him.

[shawn]

Hire a private investigator if you want to know. BUT you do not trust this guy, so I say cut your losses and spend your time, emotions, and energy on a positive relationship that is waiting for you.

If you confront him, do it with someone with you. It could get ugly, and I want you to be safe. Also, it would help keep you on the subject and acting responsibily.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone I didn't trust. You may want to look into why you are in that relationship. You deserve someone who is falling all over himself for you and who is being totally transparent.

[iLikePizza]

Idk. Ask

[Pamela]

Its no good asking us, you have no self respect if you stay with this loser, tell him he is now with his new girlfriend,and dump his sorry a*se! He has been cheating on you for years,i suppose you realise that?

[Iqra]

well, you have been going out for lyk 4 yr u said. thts makes u lot very close and have a good understanding. i think you should clarify things wid him. maybe jus ask him? or put a camera in his bedroom lol catch him out? or get his facebook password or chck his phones? you could also try spking to his family or neighbours to see if they saw any girl visiting? ask someone neutral...
good luck x