Why is moving on so difficult?

[Simplegirl11]

I don't expect anyone to read it all, but here's my thoughts. I just wanted this story to remain a live. Care to read! I just wanted to share it!

I currently attend a UC (won't announce which one) but this guy and I met in their page for incoming freshmen to make friends on Facebook. He asked a question and I was happy to answer it on the page. He then friend requested me on Facebook and I accepted his request. I was open to making new friends and then he instantly messaged me. I wrote back because I wanted to make friends before attending a university of 20,000+ students and not knowing anyone. Anyways, we instantly click! He opened to me within the first week we started talking. He told me there was something about me that made him trust me. And I felt the same. He was my go-to friend. We got so close just in one week. I thought how can this occur with a total stranger. I graduated in June and we began talking on May. I could not wait until September to finally met who was becoming my bestfriend. He then began to talk about his girlfriend with me, and at first I was fine with it, we were just friends right? I gave him advice and he thanked me for being their for him. July came and we talked 24/7. It seemed like things could not get better. He then stopped talking about his girlfriend and began talking about us. He wanted to met me and he couldn't wait! He just couldn't believe I walked into his life. He eventually told me I meant so much to him. I was afraid to question whether it was just as a friend or more... I told how thankful I was to have him! He kept flirting with me, but his girlfriend was still in the picture so I established we were just friends, I'm not a home wrecker. He then toned it down. I was attending summer school and he had orientation and we MAGICALLY bump into each other. The campus is huge, how could that happen! He was so nervous, I felt like I have known him my entire life. He hugged me and my heart sank! We chatted for a bit because he had to return with his orientation group. The second he left, I missed him. After he stopped talking to for a week and I was worried. Maybe he thought I was ugly and I questioned everything! But he then posted on FB saying how he was confused and did not know what to do! I felt like it was towards me! Anyways, he eventually contacted me! My heart smiled! August made our friendship stronger, I helped him with his school issues and helped him get everything toward. We could of not been closer. September came and I was counting down the days until I finally saw him again! He told me he could not wait to hang out and chill with me. He said we would be together 24/7! That made me happy! Finally Move-in Day for the dorms came! I could not sleep and we stayed up all night. I felt butterflies! Finally I got to my dorm and I was waiting for his text! He texted me! "Let's Hang out" I said yes. We hung out everyday for a week. On a friday we stayed up until 4 in his room just talking about life! I was falling for him and I know he was too. The way he looked at me said it all! He had mentioned before how I was perfect and everything about me he liked and now he was showing it. Yet, his girlfriend was still in the picture. I had to the right thing and stay away! I thought him I had feelings for him and I couldn't do it anymore. I was falling in LOVE!!! He said he understood and we didn't talk for months. I could not stop thinking about him! My heart wanted him, we were perfect for each other. But he loved his girlfriend. I stayed away. I finally felt ready to be friends again and he did not want my friendship anymore. He ignored me and neglected me! I was confused and hurt! I wanted an answer! We then saw each other one day and hung out like nothing happened. Ever since then I have only seen him from far away. I can't hurt myself any longer. He choose to throw away the amazing friend ship we shared. Maybe he was afraid or maybe he never cared. I just want to know why he pushed me away. I still think about him and hope to not run into him because I do not know what will happen. I will always have a special place for him. For now he is just the past, but I still care /: One person change so much. One message! I wish we could of ended in good terms! I just wanted to let it all out. I don't expect anyone to really read this!

[aquamist014]

I give you tons of credit for holding back everytime when you had the chance to jump on him for all the romance. You did the right thing. I honestly feel like yes he did like you...but it sounds to me that since you didn't want to be that girl that's hooking up with him while he's in a relationship tells me that he didn't get what he wanted so he stopped trying and either stuck with his girlfriend or found someone else. Maybe i'm interpretating this thing completely wrong..but i'm trying to put the pieces together lol. Or maybe he stopped being friends because he knew he liked you but also liked his girlfriend and he knew he couldn't have both at once cuz he certainly tried but you said yourself that you wouldn't agree to doing that because his girlfriend was still in the picture. You have good morals. Just remember, imagine if you ended up as his girlfriend and he was really friendly with some other girl, he could of been liking somebody else too and wouldn't minded hooking up with someone else while being with you? Just trying to have you be put into the other girls shoes. I'm not saying the guy is a bad kid..but the situation definetly went weird. Not sure if this was much help lol..but could you answer mine?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...637AAp7mgX

[Charin101]

I'm sorry but it sounds kind of like he wanted to play around with you and because you were good and refused to be with him while he had a gf he didnt want anything else :/
I know how u must feel. It's hard to deal with (or even understand) when guys who seem so sweet try to use us. But trust me, if he was flirting with you while he had a gf, then he's not a good guy.

[Yellow]

It shouldn't have been allowed to go this far. 1. He should not have got to know you behind his girlfriends back and opened up to you and allowed you to get close to him like that and 2. As soon as you found out that he had a girlfriend, you should've backed off and forgotten about your feelings and not let them to develop any further, especially not spent time alone with him.

I know that it is easier said than done. Especially when you start to fall in love with someone, but with these things you really have to nip it in the bud ASAP before feelings get involved because it just makes it harder for the both of you.

He's not chosen to throw away your friendship, he's chosen to stay in a relationship with his girlfriend and cut out any temptation - which is the correct thing to do and what he should've done in the first place.

Sorry to sound so blunt about it, but I think that this is the best thing. Like you've said yourself - you're not a home wrecker, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? You wouldn't be happy knowing your boyfriend was acting the way he was with another girl behind your back? Maybe he has come clean to his girlfriend and she's asked him not to spend anymore time with you.