is my daughter in danger of becoming a sociopath/narcissists?

[Danielle]

The father of my 3yr old daughter is a sociopath/narcissist. I recently discovered what a sociopath and narcissistic is and realized I have been victim for 13yrs of this mentally abusive relationship. Although he does show love and affection towards our daughter he also at times stands her up. We are separated but he lives with a women that is 23yrs older then him. He obviously is using this woman for his own financial and mental needs. But given the situation I worry my daughter is going to pick up on his habits and turn out like him. What can I do to prevent this from happening to my daughter?

[Boudicca]

Give her a better example to learn from
Limit his influence on her life. Seeing as he was abusive to you you can use that to get legal levereage against him if necessary.
Discuss this possibility with a mental health professional. Don't go over paranoid about it. After all for the narcissist it isn't much of a drawback, they alway always get what *they* want and need. Don't they?

I have found that all domestic abusers are narcissists. Perhaps this website might help you.
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/

It is written by a domestic abuse survivor. You don't have to buy anything or join or register. If you can understand your abuser, you may be able to steer your daughter through any tendencies she may have to follow him. Although I have met far more narcissistic males than females. You can also learn how to avoid these people in future and heal from your experience and how to have a balanced relationship with people. Anyone. Not just romance.
You also need to look up the rescue triangle and do some reading about that as it is relevant to your situation.
Best of luck to you.

[evee]

psychopathy is not hereditary. sociopath is a high functioning psychopath basically...my husbands dad is prime example of a highly intelligent, highly sadistic, evil narcissists, and my husband has no predatory traits....

if your daughter will be a narcissist, it's not genes, it's just her, but she has same chance as all of our kids...so don't worry...

what i wouldn't do is let my daughter see her psychopath dad, he doesn't love her, these people are predators they feel no love, or genuine emotion, he sees her as an extenuation of himself, and she is in danger of sexual and emotional abuse...

sexual, coz narcissists, among other things, see people as there for their own gratification, and auto-erotic act of sex with their own children, appeals to their ideas of themselves...
as she gets older, the more your daughter exhibits her own personality the abuse would get more sadistic and violent and emotionally abusive, because narcissists think, how dare this child do anything but serve as mini me - there for my pleasure and gratification, reflecting back to me what i want..

cut all contact of your daughter with him, no court will go out of their way to make you let your daughter see a diagnosed narcissist personality, who used to abuse you...

don't worry about your daughter, we should never judge anyone by whom they are related to, that is not smart...

EDIT: female narcissists are passive aggressive and hide their predatory and controlling urges behind a man, usually, took me 20 years to realize that my mum is just as handicapped as my dad, only she is hiding behind him...manipulating us all into thinking he makes her act in disturbed ways...

[Chand]

You can teach her right from wrong and show her empathy and compassion for other ppl.
Make it a goal to teach her how to care about things that dont have anything to do with her. Like homeless ppl and dog pounds etc.

[Red R]

Well there are a few ways to tell.

1. Does she feel the need to be always praised?
2. Does she become tense when she feels like she is not the superior individual
3. Does she need constant attention?
4. Does she use Twitter? A new study shows young narcissists prefer twitter Interestingly there is this article I read saying how most adults narcissists use Facebook and young narcissists use twitter http://yawncentral.com/facebook-and-twit...rcissists/
5. fantasizing about power and success
6. Doesn't like criticism?

The key is an elevated delusion sense of self and if that is damaged, they get violent or agitated.