Somebody please answer, I will give 10 pts. to best answer...why is he being this way?

[K]

I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. I used to work with this guy "Philip" for over a year. I developed feelings for him and soon found out he was married. The feelings didn't automatically go away just because he was married and they ended up getting stronger. We've always been pretty close and he's always been very sweet to me. He's quite charming, so he basically has me wrapped around his finger. Well, back in October, he told me to friend request him on Facebook. I couldn't find his Facebook and every time I would see him after that, I was too nervous to bring up Facebook.

I searched his Facebook again after seeing him early last month and found his Facebook. I sent him a message asking if it'd be okay if he added me. It was read, but not replied to and it had been sent to his "Other" folder. Next time I saw him, he swore up and down he never got the message nor did he know about the "Other" folder. He said to send him another message and he would add me. My friend even witnessed the conversation. I sent him a message the next night and got it to go directly to his inbox. He read it 10 min. later, but didn't reply or add me.

I saw him on the 7th and we were casually chatting for a couple of min. I got to the point and asked "besides being a liar, how are you?" He asked me what made him a liar and I told him I sent him a message and he never replied or added me. He said "Oh, I got the message so I'm not lying about that." I told him he was a liar because he told me he would add me and he didn't. He asked "how does that make me a liar?" I told him if he doesn't want to be FB friends, to just say so. He kept avoiding the subject and visibly getting nervous so he went somewhere else and came back and tried to talk about other things, but I brought it up again and told him he left because I was making him nervous and he said I did make him nervous and he kept changing the subject and eventually said he'd see me later. We ended up hugging goodbye before I left and I hugged him tighter and he said he liked that I hugged him tighter.

I heard he's getting divorced, but I'm not sure if that's true or not. I just don't understand why he can't be honest with me and tell me he doesn't want to be FB friends. I don't even care that he won't add me or reply to me. I care that he lied to me and won't own up to it. I'm 23, he's 35.
T-How was I being "kind of creepy"? Nothing I said or did was creepy lmao.

[AnthonyDragons]

Ok, ok,
1. This guy is not for you
2. He seems up himself if he dosen't reply to you
3. Dont ask if he is getting divorced he will get angry

Good Luck!

[Helpful]

He's being that way because he's married and probably feels guilty... as he should.

[T]

Well maybe when he asked u he would have but now something is how ith his wife and such and tbh u were being kind of creepy
He might also just be playing with u

[Lilian]

Okay ... so from what youve said , it seems pretty clear that this dude is confused.... If he is divorcing his wife, then he is probably muddled up in all sorts of drama... this stuff gets difficult for men. He seems more likely to be the guy who plays hard to get. i get that you are crazy for him snd it sucks when you cant get their attention.... well not in the way that you want at least.
my advice to you is play it low key... just pretend that you dont care ( i know its easier said than done).
Just lay low and im sure he will be chasing you around like a little mouse ....
he likes this attention that youre giving him.
Just
LAY
LOW.

[April Delos Santos]

It seems that he is too secretive. He didn't add you and it became a big issue for you. I think there's something wrong maybe because he is going to get divorced. Talk to him and try to ask him to answer it straight to the point.

[Demolition]

what the hell just ask him directly do you love me if yes marry me if no stop flirting with me okay be a strong lady dont be a melodramatic fool!