Why since i have a good job and money do women that didn't like me before expect me to take them out now?

[Mike]

So growing up i wasn't liked by many women. No chance at going out on dates, no date to the prom because no girl was interested so i stayed home not even having a girl just to hang out with going to the movies, park etc just to have fun.. I lived in florida but moved away to go to college in california for 5 years then moved back to florida and landing a $140,000 a year job. So now the same women that didn't give me a chance 7 years ago are now very interested in me. Acourse now they have kids and are single mothers and just think that i'm going to get with them and provide a good life for them and the baby daddy kids which i'm not.. One of the girls got my number through a mutual friend and called me saturday asking to hang out. This is one of the SAME girl who i asked out many times and she said no even though she didn't have a boyfriend or anything, I thought when a girl says not it's usually no?? Now with two kids pushing late thirties and the dad out of the picture due to drug abuse/jail she just expecting me to meet her and the two kids? And now she is talking about giving me a chance to date her over the phone? So i did meet up with her just to see what she had to say and basically what she wants is asking me for her to MOVE INTO MY NEW HOME with the two kids because now the dad is gone she has nowhere to go and no money. I never called her back. So is it

[.]

They are after your money, they need a male who can support them through their lives....

just call them the C word and they will get the idea. why? because they don't love you, they are after your money.

Gold diggers is the right term here.

[jm0987rose]

Save that money. You'll need it to pay for the nursing home. Yep, woman are bad, so stay away!

[evee]

well not all of the women who were not interested before are interested only in your moeny now...we change in 7 years from 17 to 24, 25... or 35, however old you are...maybe you blossomed...

maybe being financially successful gave you confidence...maybe some of those girls did like you, and you never asked them etc...

when i was 17 id never ask a boy out at 35 i might....i have new confidence myself---

im sure you know that you do not owe any woman any moeny, just coz you guys are dating...

so just find some girl you like and that really likes you, and in time she will also be spending your moeny, coz people grow closer and start sharing things...

dude, if you ahve moeny your gf will spend it, its a fact of life...

and thats ok, money is there to be spent...but find a good quality gf that loves you and appreciates all you offer including moeny...

[Ann]

Now she's desperate for someone with money.

[hithere42]

On the plus side, at least she was blunt about what she wanted.

She asked you out because you're probably decent enough, and maybe she thinks you're a little naive, and because it can't hurt her to try (beats just letting her family be homeless). The problem is, her motives/desperation combined with your disinterest is no grounds for a relationship.

You should have no problem dealing with these people. I'm more concerned about how practical strangers are wanting to move in with you because they *think* you're rich. Any monetary information about you beyond a simple "my occupation is xyz" should be shared with *very* few people. Good luck.

[Beth]

well if you really did love her then you would have it in your heart to forgive her because sometimes it takes us women some time and maturity to realize what we want has been infront of us the whole time.. maybe thats how she felt? then again if she felt that way she wouldn't of got with someone else and got knocked up, with not just one, but two kids! I don't know its really up to you if you want to forgive her and see how it goes. You only live once and life is about experiencing.. you might find a really great women behind her mistakes. Assuming you two have history, i think you should put things to rest and get closure. Then again she did flat out reject you but people do change from when they were younger! it's up to you and how do you know she is not educated or has a decent job? I think you should at least give her a chance, don't have so much resentment and anger in your heart. Be the bigger person and let her at least give you the chance to prove otherwise, you might find a genuine partner out of this, true love is hard to find. How do you even know she is aware of how much money you make? it's not like you would of stated that on your facebook or walk around advertising how much you make? doesn't really add up to me..

[Yh]

If there is one thing I learnt about life is this. When girls are much younger and prettier, they went thorugh boyfriends like toilet paper. They rejected people like you because you are nice. Nice guy is not good for fun. However as they ages and the choices are far and between and they KNOW the scumbag they dated and slept with when they are younger is not a good prospect for FUTURE. This is the time, she'remembers' you, Call me prejudice BUT you are a bit silly if you jump in when she say jump. Be cautious because this is your heart and money you put on line.