Was this really mean of me to say?

[tallplantation465]

Ok so I dated this guy 2 1/2 years ago when I was 14 he was almost 18. Im 16 now. I lost my virginity to him a month into the relationship and I was his first. It was the second date. Now he is dating another girl they have been dating 10 months shes 19 and he's 20. I think they probably have had sex so i wrote on her facebook "hey slut, you like his penis in you don't you? Haha whore you just love to spread your legs for him." No I'm not jealous i dated another guy last year and had sex with him too so I have moved on. What do you think?

[Ana]

their relationship isnt any of your business since you guys have been broken up for 2 and a half years now. so yes that was mean, you're clearly jealous or just extremely immature.

[ella]

Yes it is mean because she might not of even had sex with him! Even if she did it was her and this guy's choice. If you have a say about it then say it to her in private. Not all over facebook where all of your and her friends can see it. Also you didn't have to be mean and call her a **** how would you feel if you was having sex with the guy and then his ex girlfriend wrote on your timeline the same thing?

Hope I helped

[ajcowgirl]

Just because you have sex with somebody else doesn't have anything to do with you moving on from a past boyfriend. But that's not your question...

I think it was very immature for you to write that on her facebook page. I also think that it is very cowardly for people to to call other people names on the internet, through text, through e-mail, etc. Because would you have really said that same thing to her face? If you wouldn't say something to a person's face, then you shouldn't be typing it. People feel empowered by the internet because they can be mean and catty to people without having to immediately deal with the consequence of how that person will react, but that's not a very good habit of behavior to get into. How would you like it if some girl that an ex is now dating posted on your fb page saying "Hey slut, I hope you enjoy sloppy seconds, whore"? I know you probably consider yourself a tough person, but be honest, that would hurt your feelings, wouldn't it?

Why do you feel the need to be so mean to someone else? You're acting like a bully. Do you want to be a bully?

I'm not trying to be condescending, just want you to try think about this in a different way than you are. You may be rolling your eyes as you read this, which is fine, you're entitled to your opinion. But I challenge you to really think about how mean it was for you to write that to someone, and how immature it is to post things like that on facebook, a public place for everyone to see. If you are thinking "it's not immature, I had a reason to write it...." or whatever your reasoning is, ask yourself, is this how adults act? Do you see your parents, teachers, other professionals acting like this? No, and adults aren't going to take you seriously if you continue to speak this way to people.

Ok, I'm done! Again, not trying to talk down to you at all, everyone goes through something like this in their lives, this is meant to be food for thought.

Good luck!