Do I have Aspergers?

[highthrone667]

I'm a shy guy who's 24. I can't get good conversations with people, I don't understand peoples emotions well, I am lonely and have been all my life. When I was 8, I was captain of my football team and then captain of basketball team when 12 but quit all sports I played because of my relationships with other players. People complimented my playing because I was good but I could never talk to them about anything other than basketball.
I just quit my band who had 800 likes on Facebook because I felt I couldn't fit in socially. I felt lonely being amongst so many people, because I couldn't connect with any of them. Just as lonely as I feel now being by myself. I'm also keeping fit and playing with a football team. i still feel really awkward around people and it's making me unhappy. I'm not like people who can just be funny and interesting because even my tone sounds sarcastic when I compliment people and they think I'm being nasty. Also, I half smile without realising and people mistaken that as a horrible sneer. I met so many women, but always had bad experiences. For example, a women stood me up on a dating site (that was the only action I got), and one day when I was sound checking I went up to a really hot women and said "hi your stunning. Whats your name?" She replied with "f*** of loser." And her two girl friends were laughing and looking me up and down with ridicule. I felt humiliated. Then I played a good gig and the 3 girls saw me playing and the girl felt bad.

[Reefy]

you are masochistic
i doubt you have assburgers

[Mask]

You need to learn about body language because about 98% of what we communicate is via body language and only about 2% from the mouth. The strangest thing of all is that we sum up a person by their body language at first meeting in less than four seconds. Yup that fast - it's an eye brain thing.

https://www.google.co.uk/webhp?tab=ww&ei...y+language

The other thing you need to learn fast is how to be happy and the best way start is to read a philosophy created by Socrates based on his idea that every human being can find happiness.

http://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/hist.../socrates/

Let Socrates be your teacher - we all have much to learn and it's a lifetime progress too.

Socrates
https://www.google.co.uk/webhp?tab=ww&ei...=socrates+

There is something else which can help and it's music. You'll have to find the music style you like but mine is this. . . .Greek.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M08S_apQ0yU&hd=1
You know the tune - so get up and dance.

Laughter is great medicine too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HMOLNjdQF90&hd=1

Drink lots of red wine and have plenty of olive oil and you too will find true happiness.

The other thing you need is the power of the Goddess Athena - she will help you all of your life and that's a promise.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/co...530_n2.jpg

Athena with you always.

[Lys]

Hey, sorry to hear that you're going through that. Girls can be jerks. Don't let a few bad ones spoil the rest. Don't take us too seriously, either. Sometimes you might just catch people in a bad mood and they don't realize how mean they are being. You have every right to be mad at them, but don't take it personally. They're not worth it.

I don't know what advice to give you regarding your "awkwardness", but I have a related story. I met a guy online who sounded very much like you. He was 24 at the time. We met up in person and he was, indeed, socially awkward. I didn't care about it. I found his quirks endearing and liked him because he was a good person with a great mind and heart. We eventually became boyfriend and girlfriend and loved each other very much. We are no longer together, but we are best friends now.

Don't change yourself. It takes a long time to find people who love you for who you are, but once you do it will be worth more than a thousand friends.

[Godless Athiest]

not funny troll, i have aspergers and its a living hell....aspergers involves a complexity of things, its not just being socially akward...if your a troll and think this is funny, its not.... burn in hell

[Amanda]

Don't start a conversation with "you're stunning" - too eager too soon, you scared her. Try copying how other people act.

[Alice C]

Obviously you have Social Communications Deficits which isn't necessarily your fault. But you also need to have Repetitive and Restrictive Behaviors in order to be consider as Autistic. Aspergers was done away with when the DSM-V came out where all disorders associated with Autism was clumped together making it truly a Spectrum. I for one welcome the changes. I'm an Autistic Adult who hate human relationships and find them incomprehensive. I also have behavior problems as well.

Do you have at least 2 symptoms in the behavioral section?

Sensory issues?
Stereotyped and repetitive motor movements?
Obsessions for objects or subjects that cause issues in your life?
Rigid routines that cause you to get very upset if even one little thing is changed?