HELP - why is he like this?

[Samantha]

My ex and I were really good friends.
We got into a big argument in January/beginning of February and we didn't talk for 2 months.

We play in the same soccer league, and about a month ago, I stopped him to tell him I wanted to talk to him, and he said he couldn't.

Last weekend (not this past one), he messaged me on Facebook (he blocked me, so he unblocked me) saying: "you said you wanted to talk the other day? I'm listening…"
So we were kind of talking, and I guess I wasn't saying what he wanted to hear so he stopped responding and blocked me again.


THEN on Saturday, I guess he unblocked me and messaged me saying "i try being friendly with you but the way you act sometimes just annoys the hell out of me…"
So we were texting, and then he texts me: "just that I wish we could be chill, but that seems like hopeful wishing"

So I replied with "it doesn't have to be hopeful wishing.."
And then he goes "maybe you're right, but at this point with the way I am and the way you are it is… and before it comes up if it ever comes up, I'd like to make it clear that I have no intentions to date you again"

I don't want to date him now anyways, since I want to study abroad



He was clearly thinking about me last week.
But he hasn't accepted my follow on Instagram or friend request lol...

He clearly wants me in his life, but he also stopped texting me.. We haven't spoken since Sunday
If he wanted to be chill... why would he stop answering my texts?

[Anonym.]

Well it sounds like you are assuming to much of him. You say clearly he wants to be your friend and talk if he reached out to you and i look at this all completely differently. I think he doesnt care to continue this friendship and he has in fact made that obvious and you just arent picking up on that

Good luck, sorry

[Jenny]

Sounds like you might be coming on a bit too strong, making it seem like you really want to get back with him. There's something in the way that you're communicating with him that is turning him off, big time, and he is running for the hills... and usually that's a clingy woman who doesn't know she's clingy. By him saying you're annoying makes me think that's probably the case here, though I can't be sure from what you've said.

I hate to say it but sometimes the saying is true: he's just not that into you. As much as it hurts to let go, go and try to find someone who's worth the investment of your time and emotions because clearly, he is not. He wouldn't be trying so hard NOT to be in your life if he were.