do I really derserve to be treated this way?

[thunderingtoad608]

I took this gorgeous girl (who goes to my college) on a few dates a month ago who was my crush in last semester and I was extremely happy since I finally had the balls to ask her out. Everything went really well (she said she liked me and we made out) except I mentioned "love at first sight" on fb chat which made her feel uncomfortable.

2 days later after our dates,she told me she wasn't looking for a relationship and wanted to stay friends. I was really upset but then she messaged me that night kept saying she was sorry and starting to flirt with me again.

We hung out a few times after that (we'd still kissed) and finally one day at school, I saw her walking passed by and I kept calling her name however she pretended I didn't exit and kept on walking. I was really pissed and frustrated so I asked her for the reason on fb. She replied "You make me uncomfortable ever since you said the "love at first sight" thing. Really freaked me out tbh". I was stunned. I treated her so damn well (bought her expensive accessories, took her and her mom to fancy restaurants) and now she wanted to fk off?Why?

After that, i got myself drunk for the next two days (bad decision I know, I'm not really a drinker anyway) and I just kept trying to get her out of my head but nothing worked. What do you guys think I should do? I just can't take this anymore. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

P.S. We haven't talked for more than a month but still see each other in the library.

[Romeo]

Dude she's using you .-. She just wants you for fun but stop being her friend

[Soup Stock]

When we have crash on someone, we tend to be blind.
I think it is safer to see the warmth of the heart of the person toward us before really falling for someone.

[Salvo]

My gut tells me it might be tough to hit the re-set button on this one. The first thing I'd think about is whether she's really mistreated you, or you're just pissed that her attention is elsewhere, and pissed at yourself because you misplayed it. If she's really jerking you around-- mistreating you-- i think you have to walk away. If she's doing it now, she'll do it again. But if you decide she really has NOT mistreated you, i would try to have a quiet conversation with her, and just say that you made a mistake-- you were excited about her, and said something you thought was light-hearted that freaked her out. Take ownership of that, and see if she's up for spending some time together-- very casual stuff at first to get comfortable again.

[LG]

Why are you so broken up over a girl you only went on five or six dates with? I'm sure this girl is great. But she ain't the last lifeboat on the Titanic. You can find another girl you like just as much. And maybe learn a lesson not to dump on her so early in the relationship. And maybe learn that you don't have to try so damn hard to get a girl. Yeah, ask her out, which is sometimes tough. And then show her a good time. But really, buying her expensive stuff and taking her mom out as well is over the top. If some girl said to me after two or three dates "can my mom come too?" I'd be like WTF!? It'd be a huge red flag and I don't think I'd date her again.
Maybe you think you can't do better and that's why you're so broken up. IDK. But I think you can. You went gaga over this girl, not knowing very much about her. And then the reality didn't quite play out like the fantasy. It happens. In fact, almost never does the reality play out like the fantasy. All we have are human females to date, who sometimes get spooked when a guy comes on too strong. Just like guys can get spooked.
Real love takes time. Lust happens at first sight. And just because you're not spending every waking moment thinking about boning her doesn't mean it ain't lust. If you're floating on cloud and haven't actually been dating her all that long, it's lust. Lust isn't a bad thing. It gives us the energy that makes us pursue and take chances. Lust oftentimes turns into love. But it isn't love. Know the difference. Real love happens when the lust fades.