Please help, what should I do?

[gentlefamily001]

I was seeing this guy but I left because i joined the army. It was a choice I made to make myself proud, i had no idea I would meet someone only a couple of months before I left. In the beginning we were great, he is my first, so of course we got close. Then suddenly he started disappearing and at the worse time possible, right when I was leaving. I spent my last few weeks crying over him instead of enjoying the people who love me. He wanted me to write him at basic so I did. He eventually responded but by that time I decided that I needed a man who was going to love me for me. I am only 19 so I have plenty of time. Being so strong and having to take care of myself made me a more confident person. I wrote him saying that I wish him luck and that I decided I needed to move on. I got over him, the letter sucked to write but I could feel myself ridding him from my thoughts. Before my graduations I got a response (one I was not expecting.) He told me how much he missed and wanted me. I asked my friends who of course told me to go for it because they know how much I like him. When I got my phone back we started texting. He told me all this stuff, how he wanted a future with me. My best friend sent me a pic of his fb page, and a photo of him and his ex girlfriend. They looked so happy and very much together it killed me. He lied at first but I got it out of him that he was seeing both of us. I don't know what to do. he said he wanted me then flip flopped. I am so confused, help!

[Kieth]

Dump him, he was cheating. He wont change, you aren't around and he will cheat. Focus on your training and be the best you can be. His loss, you are capable of so much more.

[Mr.Pop]

First of all, get the idea of having a normal relationship out of your head since you're in the military. I was and saw a lot of my friend's relationships destroyed. I never was, but just from my observation, military relationships are over glorified, and quite seriously, you are taking someone away from having a normal and LEGITIMATE relationship. People can bash me all day for saying that, but seeing someone only once every couple months for years until they're discharged, or even less if they're deployed, or if you're lucky and you get to live on base.

THAT makes military relationships pathetic and in my opinion an abomination. I sympathize for you, but cut the crap, you're taking HIM away from someone else who would/could be there with him 99x more than you could.

Get over him. Allow him to have a happy relationship. I hate to sound so harsh, but I saw enough friends go down that path, and it disgusted me.