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How ask the girl to be your girlfriend.?
04-28-2014, 12:01 AM
Post: #1
How ask the girl to be your girlfriend.?
Ok so im not good at explaining things which is why the title is stupid. So couple of weeks ago at my friends house party I met this amazing girl. She clever funny cute like way better than me in every way and wayyyyout of my league. Me in my intoxicated state somehow manged to hook up with her (we're 16 so its just kissing ok ye) She found ME the next day on twitter, we exchanged numbers and started texting alot. Few day later I invited her to my house she was only free the weekend after. So we talked everyday and yesterday was that day. I walked her to my house. We watched Lord of the rings (her suggestion) and got a pizza. We did end up making out for a while etc. I walked her home. He dad answered the door so I just sorta awkwardly waved good bye. She text me making sure I got home ok (alot of crime where we live) We were talking till she went to sleep like usual she started saying how cute i was. and thats that.

Sooo here the question how do i go about like making her my girlfriend i guess is the best way to put it. Ive never had an actual girlfriend and I really really cant fuck this up. What do I say to her. I did plan on saying something to her lastnight but I forgot completely. Shall I talk to her over text about it or wait till I see her again. What should I say? Thanks this is very much appreciated


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04-28-2014, 12:11 AM
Post: #2
Just say "Wanna be my girlfriend ?" And if she says no then just say that it's fine and you're happy to keep things the way that they are. Don't do it over text or she'll think that you're a wuss.


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04-28-2014, 12:17 AM
Post: #3
Pick a location that sets the right tone. It&#x27;s important to pick a place where you can have enough privacy to ask your question. You can avoid any overly-romantic location, such as a candle-lit dinner, which will make your intentions too obvious and will make things more awkward if you are rejected. Asking during a long walk in a park or over quiet drinks can be just perfect.
Pick the right time. Evenings are more romantic and will allow the girl to focus on you, not her busy day. You can ask her on a weekend night, but be wary that this will make it look like a date already.
Make plans in advance. Be mysterious. Ask her to meet you a week in advance, so she&#x27;ll be thinking about your intentions. This will show her that you&#x27;re playful and thoughtful.
Have the right attitude. You should approach the evening with a positive attitude. Thinking that your conversation will go well can really help you succeed. If you have confidence in the future of your relationship, she will too.
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04-28-2014, 12:22 AM
Post: #4
Since you've been kissing her i don't think so it would be a surprise or shock for her if you ask her out. So go ahead and do it.
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04-28-2014, 12:25 AM
Post: #5
Don&#x27;t hassle the poor girl with terms like girlfriend.
You had one good date which went well. Talk to her and see if you can organise another.
The girlfriend&#x2F;boyfriend thing happens if you get to @ date 4&#x2F;5
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04-28-2014, 12:28 AM
Post: #6
This is how the emotionally mature and psychologically well-balanced people do it .. the people who actually have the skills to make relationships work:

Date her for 2-4 months.
Prearranged get-togethers, suggest activities, pay for any activities that cost money.
Slowly get involved physically. Start by touching her arm, holding her hand. Kissing her. Maybe next time do a bit more .. .always being aware of whether she is tensing up and resisting, or relaxing and encouraging. If you push her that might be the last time you see her.
Slowly get involved psychologically. Discuss things that matter to you, your values, your outlooks. See how well you two see eye-to-eye.
Also spend time getting to know her through her behavior. Is she kind to others, is she slow to take offense or feel hurt, does she let go of negative emotions and stay laid-back? How does she get along with family?

Over time, as you get to know her, you might find that you like her as a person.
If you two are still dating after 2-4 months, THEN ask her to be your girlfriend.

To ask her right off the bat is like a little kid playing "house". It is a fantasy and the more you buy into it, the more it will hurt when the reality bursts your bubble of make-believe.

You can ask all you want.
She can accept all she wants.
But until you two KNOW each other and have some kind of basis for BECOMING bf-gf, you are only playing "house" with each other, indulging in a fantasy. Unfortunately, fantasies can bite as hard as reality .. because we believe them.
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04-28-2014, 12:37 AM
Post: #7
Well since you're both 16 and she isn't a s.l.u.t. , she is probably expecting you to ask her to be your girlfriend. If she didn't like you, she would not make out with you so you are in the lucky position to be at least confident she will not reject you!
I think you should be creative and do it in a cute way, in my opinion take her our, don't do it over texts.
If you want to actually take her out or meet her face to face: Write like a letter or something and give it to her...
or say something like: "I really REALLY like you, so will you take a chance with me? Do you want to be my gf" (you can also say this through texts)
^You can also write like a note with something like that and slip it in her pocket. I don't know if you are romantic or if she is, but that would be awesome anyway Big Grin
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04-28-2014, 12:40 AM
Post: #8
Well if you'd like things to move forward with this girl you should keep on texting her about whatever. In these text also include things you like about her and that you would like to see her again. Maybe even say you want to make it an official date or something next time. That will let her know you like her. Feel free to include things you would like such as holding her hand or giving her a kiss. Asking her what she would like for the next date also could work because of course dating is something you do together.

You also can ask her about relationships, how many she's had, the good and the bad and when she thinks people are a couple. That gives you some ideas about when to call her your girlfriend.

Feel free to let her know you don't have so much experience in the dating scene. Ask her to help you out by mentioning what she likes or what she thinks is the next step. This way you could avoid disappointments because you weren't aware of the expectations she might have.

Give it a try and see how it goes.

Hope this helps.
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