My boyfriend has been talking to another girl a lot, going emotionally insane?

[chubbysnow688]

I'm 21, She started working at his job about a month ago. We've been dating for 2 years, we don't live together yet but I hope soon. I don't want to nag him or push him away at all. He works with her pretty closely, they have talked a bit on facebook too but no "cheating" talk. I'm starting to go really crazy and freak myself out; I've never realized how much I love him and how powerless I am to keep us together. I could wake up tomorrow and our relationship could be over. I couldn't live without him. More importantly I feel like I've let him too close to my heart and I should distance myself =P. I'm going insane, but I feel like I might do more harm trying to talk to him about it (ideas in his head/push him away).

[joe f]

You DO need to distance yourself from him emotionally hon.As far as shacking up, no to that and here is why, if he does not know you well enough or love you enough after 2 years to tell you he loves you, propose to you and set a date, then he is never going to.So many girls are SO desperate for a guy to love them they will throw caution to the wind, and let him "try her out" and there is where she remains, on trial basis even after having 3-5 kids for him, helping pay the bills, cooking cleaning etc. and then she is still in the same boat you are in now.Drop a few hints that you want to be married.If he balks at it then it is a sign you need to move on, and as far as living without him, you lived all the yrs before you knew him just fine hon, you can make it the rest of your life without him if you need to.There ARE other men out there.Last, unless they are flirting and crap, then stop worrying, but you are right, the relationship could end because there is no commitment on his part to you, so I would not be having sex either.

[Mark]

Try your best to make it known on FB that you two are a couple. If both decide to expand their co-working friendly relationship then it's out of your control. You will need to move on.

But from the sound of it, you're just overreacting.If you have doubts then you have every right to talk about it. It does not make you look insecure.