boyfriend of 6 years two timed me...help?

[cutiepie]

My bf and I have been together for 6 years, with the last seven months of it being long distance because we go to different colleges (only 1 hour and a half apart). Anyway, two weeks ago I broke up with him because he was taking me for granted and would never make time for me and I could not handle being sad, lonely, and disappointed anymore. It was honestly the hardest thing to do because it has been 6 years and of course I love him. Long story short, we have been on no contact since the breakup, and I just came upon this girls twitter whom he goes to the same school with, who I always thought was just his "friend" referring to him as her boyfriend and "babe" in many of her tweets DURING the time we were still together. I cannot even believe this and I feel so betrayed, and worst of all is I cannot confront him about this because I REALLY do not want to break the no contact we have had and I know it will be pointless. How can I not feel so incredibly hurt...I was 100% faithful for 6 years of my life to him and I cannot believe he could not only cheat on me during the last few months of our relationship, but two time me and why was he SOOOO upset when I broke up with him two weeks ago if he already has another girl?? Any advice would be great I have never been so hurt in my life

[John W]

I know what you are going through from personal experience and its tough. Its kind of natural to be left wondering what you did wrong for this to happen. What you need to know is that it is all on him. He is the one that quit trying to make things work between you, and he is the one that decided to look elsewhere to get what was missing instead of coming to you and discussing it.

The reason he got so upset when you broke up is that you were probably still fulfilling some of his needs. I don't know specifically what they are but it could be something as simple as doing his laundry, cooking meals, or anything like that really.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you, other than feeling hurt and vulnerable right now. This will pass with time and you will be able to get on with your life normally. In the meantime do things that make you happy and keep your mind off him. Hang out with family and friends that love you, and by all means ignore what the ex is doing. He should be dead to you. Oh, and realize that if he tries to get back with you there is an ulterior motive.