Asking a girl out on Facebook?

[Eric]

I know its a bad idea but I really don't have any other options...

I'm currently a student at UConn and I've been working at a movie theater nearby part-time for some extra cash for almost 3 years now. There is a girl that works at the theater that I see maybe 2 or 3 times a year. We both work 1 or 2 shifts a week and we seem to always be scheduled on different days. It may be horrible luck but everytime we do have a shift together we mesh perfectly. I really think we would be great together. I have just gotten out of a long relationship and I want to pursuit this girl. The problem is that I rarely see this girl and I don't want to wait to ask her out.

We are friends on facebook but for the past year and a half she hasn't gone on it at all. That is until last week when she started posting again. I desperately want to ask her out and I think this is my only opportunity. The problem is every time I try to ask of Facebook, I feel like I'm coming off as a major creep.

Do any of you know a way or have any tips on asking a girl out online without coming off as a creep? Any other ideas you have for me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Thank you all for all the advice! I'm most likely going to just try and start a conversation with her over Facebook and eventually ask for her number. I wish it was easier to just meet up with her in person, but between my classes and internship I don't have the time to drive all the way to work to try and make it seem like a chance meeting.

[Deonte]

Personally, I would use Facebook to message her a bit and catch up. At some point try to get her phone number during that conversation. Then either set up a time to hang out, and ask her then, or call her to ask. Good luck

[Christy B]

i was asked out by a guy through fb, and its been 6 months we are dating. he asked me for my number , before that we used to have chats on fb and we became good friends on fb and gradually he asked for my number and the i said it would be good if we just connected through fb and that was said by me like thrice to him and then the fourth time i gave him my number and he asked me out and accepted and weve bee together since then. soooo i guess u should try the same. be friends through fb chats 1st and then the number and then the dating

[mando]

Well at least you understand that asking over social media isn't the best way to go.

I don't completly understand your situation, I only have what you have posted here to go off of so I will start from the bottom (now we here )

Try to talk ot her first! It seems that you guys are just mere acquaintances but nothing more. If this is true, asking her out in person or over facebook is irrelevant, it'd be a bit awkward because she barely knows you.

So I would suggest you talk to her FIRST, get to know her a bit more and when the bond is good between the two of you. I would try to find a way to ask her to HANG OUT FIRST in person...if that is not an option, then facebook will have to do.

Bottom line, it doesn't matter how you do it...as long as you do it. But trust me from experience, the moment you hit enter, you'll be checking your fb every minute to see if she has seen it yet and you will flip when it says she has seen it but hasn't responded either. Just saying, it'll be harder on you if you don't ask in person. If you do do it in person, you get a response THEN AND THERE AND NOW!

Hope i helped!

[Hermione]

1.) Ask her to meet up with you at the park or somewhere
2.) Take her to a bench and sit facing her on it
3.) (Optional take her hands in yours
4.) Say to her: I know we don't see eachother much... but... 'will you be my girlfriend?' or 'will you go on a date with me?' Cuz that's way cuter than: 'wanna go out with me?'
Good luck and I hope you get her ; D

[Marielle]

I wouldn't ask her out on facebook but maybe ask her to hang out instead...I think you'd scare her off if you just asked her out. If you ask her out online I would try to casually initiate a conversation...say "Hey how's work going?" Or something like that. Ask her something that she can relate to.

An even better solution would be to find your work schedule and see when she is working. When she's working you could go into the theater ask to "see the schedule" or something and then strike up a conversation. Then maybe you could ask her to hang out/ask for her number.

[whatwasithinking]

Don't do it, it comes off as very impersonal and its so much easier to get shut down over a message. I tried and failed to do just that last year and the girl even lied that she had a boyfriend. The paranoid part of me is wondering how much of her friends she showed all my messages too,lol...I'm over her and think its funny right now, but trust me on this one.