Tell Youth Pastor you are leaving?

[Expertclam519]

I am on my way to leave my church. I am in the Youth group and not a member. I have asked similar questions and have som options for leaving the church:

A: Send a message on Facebook about i am leaving
B: Send a message that says that she need to talk.
C: Randomly approach him underbar Youth meeting and say that you are leaving

Which one of these options is best? Do you have experiences you like to share? Have your own options?

[gregory]

you can do as you wish

your not a member so your under no obligation to tell them your leaving

[Carlos K]

D. Walk out the door, don't come back. No need for drama.

[Puffin]

Do as you wish, but if you are leaving, just walk away. Anything less is seen as your selfishly wanting to be convinced to stay. It's not sincere, but the pastor will try to talk you out of it anyway.

Don't go any more. That's the simplest thing to do. why make hassles for yourself.

[BJG]

Depends on your reason for leaving, I am assuming that by not being a member, you mean a member of the actual church. This isn't uncommon for young adults to attend a youth group but not go to the church.

Will your leaving the youth group unannounced create concern for you that could lead to them trying to get in touch with you to discuss it with you? Are you leaving because you don't agree with something that happens there? Are you leaving because you are feeling called elsewhere.

If your leaving won't be cause for concern and you are feeling called away from this group, then just quietly leave. No reason to make a fuss.

If there will be concern or you believe that something is wrong with how they are doing things then you should speak to your leader in private about your concerns. This could benefit future youth members and provide you with a clean break.

I left my LONG TIME youth group at 18 (while still in High School). There had just been a change of leaders from a woman a truly trusted, to a husband and wife that the husband ALWAYS made me uncomfortable. I stuck around for the younger kids but started distancing myself. I knew it was time to break away, when at a youth cook out I watched the husband beat his dog in front of the whole group. I marched right up to the man and his wife and flat out told them that the example he had just set was a horrible one and that I couldn't be a part of their farce anymore. You never never NEVER raise a hand at those who cannot defend themselves, this goes the animals you take in your care.

[Lover of Blue]

I think it depends on how active you were in the youth group and how close you are to the leaders. If you were very active and close then a face to face or a phone call may be appropriate but if you were only a casual participant then perhaps a text or email or not even announcing your leaving would be appropriate.

Most pastors these days understand that people come and go. Some get concerned when people who have been actively involved up and leave without any notice or explanation. If you have an issue with the youth group or leadership or even the church, you may want to express that as well so that perhaps they can take some time and mull over your issues with the group.