I think my boyfriend wants me to feel insecure?

[Cutelove]

Do guys like confident girls or insecure girls? I mean you hear those songs on the radio like 'you don't know you're beautiful, that's what makes you beautiful' but then guys always say they like confidence.

Well, my boyfriend seems to want me to feel insecure. I am and always have been, and he knows this , so he has his wish. But if I feel good about something, or like a picture of myself (like once in a blue moon), he gets weird and reacts funny .

He looks at who likes my pictures on Facebook, but he never likes them himself. He will purposely take pictures of me at angles i hate and show them to me. he knows how upset/sad/angry I get when I see ugly pictures of me at bad angles, but he'll take them anyway, on purpose it seems. And then say they're cute and keep them. But not make a remark to ones I like or take pictures of me that I'd like.

He always says how annoying confident girls are. And how girls who take really good care of themselves, spending a lot of time on hair, makeup, etc. are stuck up bitches. yet, he used to hook up with girls like that all the time and watch porn and have celeb crushes. He rarely wants sex with me though.

I know he gets jealous. And so do I. I've been pretty mean to him before too if I'm jealous and don't want him to feel overconfident. But for the most part I'm constantly showing him love and appreciation and admiration. I've raised his confidence. But he seems to want to keep mine down or lower it more.
Dee- he actually thinks girls masterbating is weird, or that's how he makes it seem (he doesn't like fingering me either). Sometimes I think he could be gay. But I'm really confident when it comes to sexual things, he just still rejects me or never initiates. Sometimes I think I'm too overbearing and being sexual way too much that maybe it bores him and makes him less stimulated?? idk/:

[Cassidy]

Girl, he only does that to keep you in check. Flaunt yourself more, see what he does. If it pisses him off he's not a good guy. Period.

[bethany]

Don't be so hard on yourself! Sounds like he's insecure. Please never quote One direction., lmao.

[MM]

"He always says how annoying confident girls are."

Yeah, I bet he thinks they are. Because a girl who thinks she deserves better than a boyfriend who never has anything nice to say and actually gets pleasure out of making her miserable wouldn't be asking whether this is what all guys want and she should just put up with this. She'd dump him and look until she found a guy capable of giving her what she wants out of a relationship - and even if she never found him, she'd still be a lot happier single than putting up with this BS.

[Dee]

From where I stand boys like
Confident girls but they also love insecurities becuase the can prove her wrong and show her how beutiful he believes she is, anyways your bf sounds like a loser or he's just messing with you and doesn't think too much of it, honestly if your horny and he doesn't want to have sex sit Infrount of him and masterbaite how about that for confidence see if you wouldn't get fucked lol I'm just saying if your confident don't become insecure Jist becuase it makes someone feel better -_-

[kate]

Well by the looks of your profile picture you look beautiful, and for a beautiful girl, it is quite strange to see someone like you dating a douche like this.

He is obviously playing a control game with you. You MUST stand up for yourself, and you must tell him exactly what is bothering you and that he MUST respect you. First, ask nicely. Second, ask nicely again but in a more demanding way. Third, if he hasn't shaped up to your standards by now, dump him.

I take really good care of myself. I exercise, I eat very healthy, I spend some (not a ton) of time on my hair and outfits, because I embrace my natural beauty because i am, for the most part, pretty confident. Confident girls tend to find a mate who is supportive. They also live happier lives. I am very happy with my supportive man. Even when I was single I was very happy with my life, because I never let anyone bring me down.