My ex messaged me?

[Samantha]

THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING WITH HIM. So PLEASE don't say that.


My ex and I got into this HUGE fight 2 months ago, where mean things were said on both sides and I thought he didn't want to be friends or whatever.
We didn't talk for 2 months.

We play in the same soccer league on sundays, and 3 weeks ago, I saw him and tried talking to him but all he said was "sorry, can't talk"


I was blocked on Facebook.
So I guess he unblocked me

Until Friday, when he messaged me on Facebook, saying "you wanted to talk the other day? I'm listening…."
So we were kind of texting for a little bit but then he stopped responding… lol

Why would he message me?? And then stop responding after a little? Lol


So I messaged him on Facebook today and said "so since you obviously won't say anything, until you hear what I wanted to say - I don't understand why that argument (the one I apologized for) made us stop being friends or whatever lol" but he read it last night and didn't respond...

Do you think he is reconsidering being friends since it's been a couple of months since the argument?
Do you think he was thinking about me? I kind of think he was...
But why would he just stop responding? He doesn't want to just jump back into being close friends?

And today at soccer, my game is at 6 and his is at 7… I have to leave early because I have a work meeting… Should I ask him to come early to his game so we can talk?

[lisa]

Well, first of all, if you want any chance of reconciliation, you need to stop bringing up the darn argument that caused the breakup in the first place. All you're doing is reminding him of why the two of you broke up, I wouldn't advise you do that. Try to start over as though it were a clean slate and a new chance. Now, about him messaging you, and then drifting off in the conversation..hard to say. When texting sometimes conversations just randomly end. But it does make the person who end it kind of be the one in control. So, yes, if he's making an effort to talk to you then he's tentatively interested. But...I would NOT under any circumstances continue to message him bringing up the argument and the break up, and I definitely would not stay late at the soccer game so the two of you could talk. The ball is in his court. It's up to him to return it. Right now he's missing you. If you start being clingy and wanting to rehash all the old problems he's not going to want to give your relationship another try. Just give him his space and see if he gets in touch on his own. If he doesn't, he's not that interested.