Jealous: I think I like a guy that likes a girl who already has a boyfriend?

[Stella]

We're all students together in a post-grad program where we met a little over two years ago. A group of us have gotten really close over the last couple of years. One of my guy friends in particular is super funny and just draws me to him. What is it about guys with a sense of humour that is just so attractive?! Anyway, there's also my girl friend (Lisa) who is part of circle of friends who is in a three-year relationship with a guy that doesn't go to our school.

Within our group of 7 friends, there are definitely people who have tighter relationships than others. My guy friend (Tim) messages me on Facebook and will text me almost every day (although it is mostly school-related), but I figure he also enjoys talking to me and obviously feels a lot closer to me than some of the others in our circle of friends. He, by the way, is single...and so am I. Anyway, I guess I felt special until I realized that he is just as close to Lisa as I thought he was to me. I know he doesn't like her anything beyond a really good friend, but I'm not going to lie - it does bother me. A lot. Yes, you could say I'm jealous.

I mean, the reality is that Tim and I could never be a couple because we have a ton of differences on so many levels that it would just never work BUT, I'm all for just light-hearted fun flirting because those things make us feel good - or at least it does so to me.
I see the relationship he has with her and it's almost the same relationship he has with me, but I want ours to be closer and tighter. I just want to know how I can help myself not be so jealous and insecure. He obviously likes me as a friend, and I don't want anything more intimate. I guess I just want more attention from him than he gives to Lisa.

I hope I'm making sense!

[Maroon]

Although this is not "legally" a question, I will still try and give you sound advise. You find yourself in a "love triangle" with Tim and Lisa. You enjoy the company of Tim... Your intuition tells you that he may still haves favor in Lisa, yet you want him to favor you most. It would be in your best interest to express your feelings for him, leaving out the jealousy bit, and take note of whether he returns those feelings or not. Regardless, it is not in your control. Just take head and know that a healthy relationship is NOT controlling. In order to remedy those jealous feelings, you must allow him to treat Lisa as he choses and learn to be happy that he is not hiding the fact that he indeed enjoys the company of Lisa. It is not easy to truly care for another another. Just imagine how Tim felt when he learned that Lisa favored another? That is the true display of someone that has mastered their jealousy. Perhaps Tim and yourself are not that different after all? Allow things to come naturally. If he returns those feeling, then it shows that he is willing to see more favor in you. Just don't question how he truly feels if things end up going towards love.