I'm 20 years old and my mother still logs onto my FB and invades other areas of privacy.?

[deepdime738]

Might I add, I also live in my own apartment away from home and am attending an accelerated medical program. I'm getting so sick of the FB stalking from my mother that I'm just going to delete my FB despite the important information that my class reps put up about the program (main reason why I made a FB in college). My mother used to call 6 times a day, but cut down to 1 call everyday at 10pm (so she can "catch" me if I go out to parties, which I don't do) for an HOUR because my father told her to calm down (she has no respect for me, so ignored me when I asked her to reduce the calls). She controls everything from how I dress, to how I act, to how I should socialize (which means DON'T socialize, stay at home and study). When she calls the first thing she says is, "Where are you? Are you studying?" She even greets me over the phone like this during the summer when I have electives like piano class which do not requiring studying. I'm pretty sure my siblings and I have clinical depression. We've never went out to the movies or gone out to eat like normal families because my mother hates leaving the house, not because we couldn't afford to do so. My life is a nightmare. How do I curb my stubborn, ignorant mother so I can relieve myself of this depression and finish school while being happy and enjoying life too?
lol I can't change my password she'll get pissed. I just won't have one anymore (what she wanted all along). I never could act like a normal kid anyway b/c of her.
There are various reasons why I can justify calling my mother ignorant. What I have typed out doesn't even scratch the surface of her crazy beliefs. She praises me like one would to their dog when I tell her that I didn't leave my apt because I was sick. Going out is equivalent to worshipping the devil in her eyes. If she had her way, I'd be home-schooled. Idk how she expects me to become a physician w/o learning how to interact with people.
lol I can't change my password she'll get pissed. I just won't have one anymore (what she wanted all along). I never could act like a normal kid anyway b/c of her.
There are various reasons why I can justify calling my mother ignorant. What I have typed out doesn't even scratch the surface of her crazy beliefs. She praises me like one would to their dog when I tell her that I didn't leave my apt because I was sick. Going out is equivalent to worshipping the devil in her eyes. If she had her way, I'd be home-schooled. Idk how she expects me to become a physician w/o learning how to interact with people.

[Traveler]

You ought to be able to code your stuff so no one can read, not even know it is there.

[Orla C]

How did your mother get your password to log into your FB? Change it. Then make your profile private so that friends only can see it. And kick your mother off your FB.

[Rebecca]

Change your Facebook password, and don't answer the phone to her for a week, spend the week just going out wit your friends, you're 20 and should be able to do what you want, if she wants to control your life, then speak to her and tell her you need more privacy, just go out to parties, you don't need her permission when you're an adult yourself

[Sydney]

i don't think it's nice to call your mom ignorant after all she's the reason your here maybe she just really misses you if you want more privacy on FB then change your password and make it private and about your sibling's if you think that there depressed then you should talk to them because depression is very serious

[Aseel Alsawaie]

Change your number and don't tell her you did so. If you have younger siblings you could take them out yourself, since you're old enough to do so. Make another FB with a totally different name than yours, tell your friends but don't tell your mum. You could use FB without her stalking you and she could stalk your old account as much as she wants. If her advices aren't useful, or just aren't helpful; Ignore them. If your father has no problem with how you dress or act, be yourself and again, Ignore your mom's advice.

You will have to confront her in the end, maybe not today but make it soon.

[Shannon]

You know I hate to say it but you need to rebel. Not like go out and start partying but rebel by telling her mom I'm where I'm at. Tell her your 20 yrs old and you don't need a leash. Your mom still thinks of you as her baby. You need to let her know that your grown now. I would even just recommend not answering when she calls you every single time. I know it sounds harsh but I let my mom go to voicemail sometimes and ill call her a hour later and talk to her. Just take control of your life. If it means being a little harsh then so what. Your mom will always know you love her. I'm not saying be mean just a little harsh.

[Guadalupe]

Thank her for being interested in your well-being. Then let her know your old enough to take care of yourself and that you need your personal space respected as any adult has a right to. If that does'nt work, then tell let her know with consideration that her presence in your house is not needed. Hopefully she'll understand you.

[Annie]

Depending on where you are, there could be options for treatment with therapy. You and your siblings should investigate this, just to see what your options are.
As for your mother, that is honestly distressingly messed up. She sounds incredibly controlling, and why is your father allowing this? You have two parents and he shouldn't let his kids be treated like this.
If you are not financially dependent on your parents maybe you should sever your ties with them for a few weeks just to show them the consequences of being smothered. If you are financially dependent on them it looks like you might have to just sit them down and explain how weird this is. Either way, get it sorted. Do you want to be a physician on your own or has she decided this for you too? You need to live your life now, because otherwise where will her controlling nature stop? Life is too short to be backed into situations like this.
Delete your Facebook and make a new one with a fake name, she never has to know. Try and make friends, you can easily balance study with a healthy social life.

Seriously, this parental behaviour is not normal, it's morbid. You should visit your local GP to get psychiatric help.