What does a straight guy gain from befriending a gay guy?

[MattyK]

There is a guy in a class of mine that I have sort of "befriended" I guess to say.

I don't normally talk to guys in my classes just because me and straight guys have absolutely nothing in common. It's to the point where I feel uncomfortable talking to straight guys cause it is just weird.

Anyways, this guy dresses VERY metro. Tribal pattern shirts/"bandana" patterned shirts/skinny pants/vans/leather jackets/V-necks, etc. He is very liberal in attitude (weird because we are in a Southern state) and just stands out when compared to everyone else. On his facebook, it says he is interested in women and has a picture of his "girlfriend" and him. If you look further back, he looks VERY gay (hairstyle) and has pictures of all of these different girls and him.

He has been texting me throughout the semester, not only about school work but also about spring break plans, college life, etc. He has also met with me a couple of times to study. No guy on this campus has ever done that with me before..

All of my fag hags think he is gay or at least bi.

What is he trying to do? Just be friends, or something else? He apparently has a girlfriend but it just feels weird with him, and I am starting to develop somewhat of a crush on him, which never happens with straight guys..
Another thing, he uses a lot of emogi's when he texts me, which I didn't think straight guys used..
I am a guy?

[Dave]

uh dude are you a man or a woman??

[Sky]

Exactly the same as if he befriends a straight guy: he gains a friend. Duh.

You can't judge that guy's sexual orientation only from his appearance and style of dress. There used to be a guy who worked at my company who I'd swear was flaming gay, but he had a wife and kids. Ditto for my former barber, although he had a wife but no kids. Just be friends with him, learn about him the same as you would with anyone else, and gain some understanding about who he is as a person. That's what being a friend is all about. If it turns out he is gay or bisexual and tries to move the friendship in a way you aren't comfortable with, just tell him that you're not interested in that and you two can only ever be friends, nothing more. But until/unless that happens or he actually comes out as gay or bi, don't make assumptions about him. If you're compatible as friends then just accept him for who he is.

[Ewan]

A friend......

What exactly are you implying here?

[Jacob]

I occasionally Han out with gay guys and I think they're f*cling hilarious. I have a few things in common with gay males because I'm not a teenage guy trying to prove himself to be a cold hearted SOB. And the metro thing, it can draw a lot of female attention. I used to be questioned a lot but I didn't care because I got A LOT of attention from girls. Maybe it's because I understood them a little better. Idk. But I used to sometimes accidentally talk and move like a cartoony gay guy XD ah those were the days

[Bobbin]

He obviously is someone who refuses to go along with the herd. I knew a high school student like that who made a point of being a friend to the friendless, new students, nerds, disabled, foreign students, anyone who was avoided by other students, especially his fellow jocks. It was just his nature. He always ate with them, even went out for pizza with them. When another student tried to take his own life, this boy moved into his hospital room until he was out of danger. You would be wise to accept the gift of this person's friendship and not question his intentions. He sounds like someone who just follows his heart and doesn't worry about what anything "means." Worst case: he's a good person to have in your corner, to have your "6" as they say on NCIS.

[reddy1975]

Ever thi
nk that you are being anti-social. He seems like a guy out to make new friends. Just cause you see two dudes hanging out don't mean they are gay. Sounds like the weird one here is you or you are a closet gay not wanting to accept it. Juust be friends man won't cause the world to end to have a hang out buddy

[Jessie]

He gains a friend, of course. Maybe even a good friend; one who'll be there if things get rough, help him move, celebrate when things go well, and help move the bodies when they need to be moved.

[elizabeth]

A friend, with a different perspective on life. If you are straight, you should not be thinking about being sexual with this friend. You could ruin the friendship. You could learn a lot about life through his eyes.