Should I message her on FB?

[FailsAtCoding]

Heres a breakdown of whats going on.

Girl works at coffee shop next to my employeer, I go in a few times a week for drinks. Back in April I asked said girl if she'd like to hangout sometime (we flirt and talk a little. Get along really well). She said she has a boyfriend, but I still continue going in for my drinks. Ever since I asked her to hangout, she's opened up a lot to me, and has told me a lot about herself.

We get along even better now.. Well she was going on Vacation for two weeks starting today, so a few days ago I found her on FB and added her. She accepted. Of course her BF is on FB as well, so I'm wondering if it's out of line for me to message her while she's on vacation.

Just something simple like "hey hows your vacation going?" etc.. etc.. Just to strike up a convo with her. She's EXTREMELY shy, and so am I. I just don't want to scare her away or anything.

Anyways, thanks for your input.

[Lindsey]

Sure go ahead and message her casually! See what it leads to!

[Sweetcakes29]

IF YOU LIKE HER, WANT HER ATTENTION? MAKE A EFFORT, GUYS SHOULD FOLLOW GIRLS. NOT GIRLS FOLLOW GUYS. So yes message her!

[pascale]

For sure. Be there as much as possible, to show her that your even better than her boyfriend! She might look at things differently if you take better care of her.
I know she's shy but you can't stay away from her, because that pushes her away even more.
Good luck

[Boxer]

Wow.....and your dad was once "proud" of you.......now he drinks all the time......


"......Of course her BF is on FB as well,....."

Evidence now of three more people falling under the "Zuckerburg Syndrome"......
Marginal individuals having their minds sucked dry and replaced with soft-serve dog poop....One Wall....One Friend....One Poke at a time.......


Hey lover boy.......what if the boyfriend sees your interest and hangs around her work looking for people who look like they might just be stoooopid enough to reach out this way.....and he's 6'6" and 240....???

[Hannah]

I suggest you wait until she comes back from her vaccation and talk to her when she's back and you get your coffee. That way you have loads of stuff for a conversation. If she didn't have a boyfriend I'd say go for it but you don't know what he's like and if her boyfriend is controlling or jealous (maybe he minds her having male friends and hanging out with them) and reads her messages you might get her into a lot of trouble and she probably won't talk to you ever again. You say she's shy so she most likely won't break up with her boyfriend just because she likes you more.
I know it's horrible to sit and wait but that could be the best thing for you to do. Maybe her relationship isn't going great and he might dump her. That's your chance and when it comes, get up and grab it!
Good luck!