My bf has flirted with girls on fb but is denying it.....?

[shortyard395]

oki, my bf is a DJ he has fb account which was blocked and he asked me to try and unlock it for him. He gave me the password to do that for him. He had always told me that his friends sometimes uses his acc he is very close with his friends so sometimes they flirt with girls and I believe him and seen it on my own eyes so I dont dought him for that.

BUT, Few days ago I tried to fix his fb acc and I saw a few conversations with other girls in (inbox) the messages were not that flirty but like '' hi how are u doing'' or something like ''why are u sad'' or the extreme one was ''you have nice style'' but I felt disgussed since he always says he doesnt like typing or using fb that much and when I usually send him messages he hardly answers and calls me by phone instead.

When I confronted him he said it wasnt him who sent the messages it was his friend!!!! I didnt believe him because I can tell from the way he talks to the girls if it was him or his friend!!!
He keeps denying it and asking me to listen to him but I told him to end everything between us but he is begging me to listen to him and not to accuse him. He didnt want to hang up the phone so I told him I dont feel ok and asked him to leave me for now but he kept begging me to listen and swore that it wasn't him and that he doesnt want to break up with me and that I have been unreasonable and if it was him who sent the messages he wouldnt lie and ask for forgivness instead!!!


Now after he refused to break up with me he asked me to give him a chance to defend himself and tha he has right to do so. He even let his mom talk to me as she was sitting next to him and and heard everything so obviously she would tell me the same thing but I wasnt ok to listen so I asked him to call me later as I am not ok and need SPACE!!!

The problem is we are in LDR and I was meant to visit him in august and booked everything but after all this I dont know what to do!!?

He always says he NEVER cheat and I am convinced that he will never have sex with other girls as he is not that open sexually and with me we waited 4 months until a good kiss happened between us, but allowing him having convo with stranger can lead to phone convo.

I really dont know what to do?? We been together for nearly two year, love eachother and have a commited relationship plus we dont have that many issues or trust issues apart from some ups and sowns like any other relationship but this makes me unhappy and I also dont know if its worth breaking up or should I just listen to what he want to say and believe him??

Please help me as I am really confused

[StellaStarfire]

Dude, you are really overreacting. Calm down and listen to the dude. He obviously is telling you the truth.

My ex actually sent a message to a girl saying that he wanted her virginity. Unless he is doing that, then you don't have the right to act like the way you are acting right now.

but really, I would hardly call "Hi how are u doing" or "why are you sad" flirting even if it was him.

[Daniella]

I caught my boyfriend flirting on fb too. He gave me his password without realizing he never deleted his fb chats. When I read them I was horrified. He had been meeting them too. We broke up but somehow got back together, it's been a year but now I think he's up to his old tricks again.
Trust me, get out of the relationship before you get too deep into it like me. They will never change.

[Gabriella]

If he is trying this hard to get you back, he doesnt seem like he is in the wrong. Put him on proba (go back and see how things continue), make him delete the dj fb nd keep his normal one. and if he was cheating, he wouldnt give u the code. so just chill nd think this over. ik how u feel, if he has never cheated on u b4 nd nvr has had a history of it, i doubt he'd start now. good luck!

[Nuevo]

Facebook to start with, is causing around or at least a third of divorces in the whole world, why do we need Facebook anyway? That might be a long or short response depending on the "needs", many people use it as a business tool and that might be the main reason your guy needs it, can you and your bf close your social network accounts in pros of keeping a healthy and stable relationship?..... Dedicate time for evaluating the relationship, create a strong bond, pay extra attention to every detail with a positive outlook, don't trust every negative thought but rather approach to understand things from a positive perspective, research about it don't just go but what we people here can tell you, we live in the era of information, read a book about relationships for instance, learning is always good.