How long should I wait to message this guy?

[petiteMercenary767]

I met this guy at a club on the weekend and we kinda hooked up. I was a little embarrassed because I'd never gone home with a guy before and he was in the same position because he and his girlfriend broke up a few months before. We were chatting when he was dropping me off home the next day and we go on really really well and before I left the car he asked for my last name to add me on facebook, saying that "we'll talk later". A few hours later he added me and I accepted (On Sunday). The thing is, it's now Wednesday night and we still haven't spoken. To be fair it's only been a few days and I don't go on fb chat often so we've never been online at the same time. I don't know if he's playing it cool/waiting for me to message him/or he's waiting for us to be online at the same time...(what do you guys think?)

Do you think I should message him tomorrow night/friday night? Or leave it a week and wait till the weekend? Or do you think the fact that he hasn't message me means he's not interested?
(I know I'm kinda over-thinking things but I liked this guy, I don't want a one night stand, and I don't want to come across as overly keen especially if he isn't interested). Has anyone else been in this position?

[Lauren]

If you felt that you both got on well and that he was interested at the time of being with him, then you're probably right. The deed is done, but he had the decentsy to drop you home the next morning - what a nice guy! Yeah a few months down the line from his break up he may still be just getting over it, but don't be put off by that. Don't think too hard into it, like you said - you felt you got on really well. Give him a few more days to make the first move, or perhaps if still nothing happens then maybe a message thanking him for the lift home would be cool to start things off, being polite is attractive. Afterall, he did ask to add you on fb... you don't really do that to someone you've just met if you wanted to avoid them. Be patient girl, you'll soon know if he's into you :*