I need help with overprotective parents?

[Ramsey]

I feel like a bad daughter for saying this via internet but i really need help. I am 15 years old (16 in october) and it has been over 9 years since i hung out with a friend. I am currently homeschool through online due to social anxiety. I have social anxiety because my parents kind of sheltered me my whole life and i just never really learned to have friends. I was in public school up until a month into my sophomore year this year.

Ever since i was little my father would find things to nit pick about my friends, making up excuses for me not to do things with them. They will not let me have any social media because my father believes it will turn me into a bad child. In the eighth grade i went to the spring fling and my dad flipped a lid because he realized that since i went to a public school there would be boys there. My dad sometimes makes comments that if i did have friends i'd be a trouble child yet hes embarrassed that i don't have friends.

I asked to have a facebook about 2 years ago and my dad yelled for about a week. My mom sort of feels that i could have one but my dad stops it. I had one in the 6th grade (they let me) but someone called me a name and they made me delete it. My dad is the more overprotective one but my mom just agrees with him and leaves it at that.

I told my mom today what i just explained, that they are way too overprotective and she yelled at me that they have never stopped me from having friends. She says they push me to hangout with people and such but really they dont.

Datings a whole other thing. My mom has always said sixteen but now that im 145 she kind of has backed away from it like she wants me to wait longer. I dont understand why shes so hesitant like hello i havent went out with friends in like 9 years, what makes you think someone would want to go out on a date with me? Anyways, my dad i think wouldnt allow me.

I understand that they did things when they were my age but theyre a little too overprotective. I know to make good choices but hey just dont trust me. Im an only child so idk if that may contribute.

i havent done anything to make them not trust me but i would just like a little bit of freedom. Again, i am not trying to bash my parents i just need help. Thank you very much.
15 not 145

[Shannon]

seek a therapist and make them go with you

[February]

Look first of all don't get irritated!!! I can feel ur situation by my heart.. as i am 16 too and my parents also haven't allowed me to sign. up on social networking sites and all that stuff.. I'm seriously pissed off.. but still.. whenever i think of these things... i just think that they're my parents and they don';t want anyone or anything to hurt me.. .and in ur case u r the only child!!!!! so its kinda irritating!!! u just keep calm.. becoz we cannot go against our parents!!! and slowly slowly steadily soon they'll feel the bondage that they gave u in ur TEENAGE!! so chill out!! as my mum has now openupd!

[Zoe]

"More and more studies have authenticated that children of overprotective parents are risk aversive, have difficulty making decisions, and lack the wherewithal to become successful in life. Furthermore, children of overprotective parents cannot deal adequately with hardships and other frustrations of life. In other words, they have very low tolerance for frustration- they crumble at the first sign of frustration.

Oftentimes, overprotective parents believe that they are doing the best for their children. It is their intention that their children have the best that life could offer. Children of overprotected parents are often sheltered from the "harsher" "more difficult" and "less desirable" aspects of childhood. These children are often not free to indulge in unsupervised activities like other children as their parents are of the school that the best activities are supervised activities. They are not assigned household chores and other responsibilities because their parents contend that such are an anathema to a carefree childhood.

Overprotective parents are invasive in other ways. They solve problems for their children that the latter are often capable of solving themselves. They infantilize their children by making them feel incapable of charting their own course. In fact, overprotective parents are making their children extremely dependent and infantilized beyond appropriate ages."

I suggest taking a look and reading some of these sites. Then once you've read up on the consequences of over protective parents. Make like a project of sorts. With a page full of web sites you used for research and then MAKE your parents pay attention and show them you little project.
I suggest if you do this make sure to include things they have done over the years and even know proving they are over protective.

http://gmwilliams.hubpages.com/hub/Child...or-Failure

http://hellogiggles.com/bad-news-overpro...-your-kids
http://www.fictionpost.com/f5/over-shelt...irls-4098/