My fiancé's parents aren't approving?

[squareriddle967]

Me and my fiancé just got engaged 3 days ago. We're an open lesbian couple. We've been together for a year and a half with a 4 month separation. Time we needed to evaluate ourselves. But it works. We love each other so much and want the same things. However, her parents don't approve. Partially her doing. When we got together I was a full time student. So I wasn't employed, and my fiancé wanted me to keep it that way so I wouldn't get distracted. In which I did. My mother didn't approve of her either. So I moved out. Her mother invited me to live with them. And it was okay. I didn't feel welcomed though. She never made an effort to make me apart of anything... Only with her daughter around. Then she started complaining about me not having a job. That's where things started changing. She friends with all of fiances exes on facebook. And would bring them up all the time. I know it's stupid. But CRAP... She's not even friends with ME on fb. When we moved out my fiancé and I started having financial issues which escalated into relationship issues. I got terminated from school. Due to missing classes. Which was led because of depression. Her parents didn't know about it. Well then I began working. My gf would call her mom everytime we argued. Which stirred up a lot of dislike. We split up cause we weren't on the same page. Then in January we got back together. Her parents had a COW! Theyhate me. We're engaged now. And when she told them , they couldn't congratulate. What do I do?

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they probably are homophobic.

[Aurora]

They obviously can't accept that their daughter is a lesbian/bisexual. This is very childish behaviour as parents should not intervene in their children's relationships. No one should intervene in anyone's relationship as it is very wrong and can cause more trouble!
Don't worry about them, but maybe talk to your fiancé about it. She needs to know how you feel. These people will soon become your in laws and so if you cannot express yourself to your wife to be, then getting married is not a good idea yet.
This is the best way to get everything out and sort it out.
Good Luck I'm sure everything will be fine.

[Lily]

Her whoooole family loves me... But her parents can't stand me. And tomorrow we have to be present at her cousins baby shower. We were BOTH invited. But that would mean facing her mom. I haven't seen her mom in 7 months. I wouldn't even know what to say! I fear she's going to be forward my harsh towards me. And my fiancé has already made the choice of cutting them out. But I don't want that! I just want us all to be happy. I want them to be in our lives as much as they should. I want her mom to help me plan the wedding, be at every dace recital, soccer practice. But how do I approach it? My mother is religious and doesn't approve of homosexuality. But she can accept our relationship. Even after my fiance left me, without anything, a home, a car. I had to go running back to mommy 100miles away. But she knows how much we love each other. I'm not a bad person. I have flaws. But as a parent shouldn't you see I'm someone else's child?! I'm still changing

[Precious Gem]

You might want to get both sides together and try and work things out. Listen to their objections and look at each one. Both of you need to stand together and let parents know how you two feel and what your future together will be. Hopefully once they see that you two are now fully committed they will need to rethink their position and try harder to accept the both of you. As for the Facebook thing consider them not accepting you a gift. You don't have to read any of their opinions and neither do your friends.