Should I stay or move on?

[Renee]

My bf and I have been together for 3 going on 4 years and we have a baby together. When I was 2 months pregnant he went to jail and was gone until i was 7 months pregnant. I did everything for him when he was in jail. i wrote letters accepted phone calls and went to visit him a few times. I stayed 100% faithful to him and made up in my mind that i only wanted him. Anyways everything was good when he came home but after a few months he started hanging out with his friends a lot. Sometimes he would hang out at night and wouldnt answer his phone. One of his friends made him a facebook page and i found his password and saw that he messaged 2 females. I cried in front of him and l let him know how bad that hurt me and he said he would delete his page. i found out a few months later that he had made a different page under a different name. i demanded he give me the password and i saw him trying to talk to 10 more females. i also found out he had a match.com page. he cried and asked me not to leave him and me being stupid i agreed to stay. he acts a lot better now and doesnt hang out as much and treats me and our child good but i just cant get over what he did. one minute everything will be good then the next minute im bringing up what he did. I think im mostly hurt because none of the girls looked like me. I am 21 and he is 26 and i feel like he might want someone older and more slutty than i am. he is a great father. what should i do? should i forgive and forget or move on? I cheated on him before but it was the first year of our relationship. please help

[worldwidescout]

normally i would say to overlook innocent flirting but my gut tells me in this case you should take the baby, move on, and never let him in your life again.

[USMC]

Move on, if he has ended up in Jail before then most likely he will be a dead beat and a abusive man to you and your kid in the future. Leave him and find another man, one with great potential or already a very good person.

[Rachel9299]

i would wait just a little longer, if you find ANYTHING suspicous, force him to tell/show you. and if he refuses just say "i'm sick of you're lying and hiding, i'm leaving" and if he doesn't show you still then leave... and if he does and its something just as bad or anything like that then leave him anyways and take the baby with you.

[Lindsey]

If you decide to stay with him then you must forgive him. That is the only way to have a healthy relationship. If you feel like you can not trust him anymore, or if it happens again then for your sake and the baby's sake split up.

Here's the good news... he is trying to change. He may be worth giving another shot to (only if you can trust him) and he's a good father. Even if you do split up he will be there for the baby and you should let him because even if he's not right for you he's still daddy and baby deserves a daddy.

Bottom line is raising a child in two loving households is better then one problem household. If you can find it to trust him and forgive and he continues to do well then that's great. If either one of these things can't or doesn't happen then maybe it's time to move on. Just please don't use the child as a weapon. Every child deserves both parents, and just because they don't love each other doesn't mean they can't give him the love he deserves.

[Peter_F]

The fact that he made another facebook/page to try to contact other females after promising you not to do it again indicates that this man is rather immature and very irresponsible, especially if he now has a baby and still acts as if he is swinging single guy!. You said he is a great father, does he have a job and support you and the child? if not, he's no great father as far as I can see. If you still loves him, I think you two should see a family/relationship counselor to work out the reasons he act the way he did. Maybe your sex life needs to be looked into and maybe he is not getting what he wants sexually from you?? Otherwise, you may have to be prepared to walk out on him if he keeps lying to you.

[Nixxlol]

Move on. He's probably already got a secret lover.