My wife put a photograph of me in underwear on Facebook. When I asked for it to be taken down, why was she upset?

[Adam]

My spouse put a photograph on Facebook last night, and tagged me in it. It was a photo of me in my underwear. I had already expressed that I didn't want the photograph to be seen, but she did it anyway. Then, when I asked her to take it down/untag it, she claimed she didn't know how - so I untagged it myself, and she then wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the night!

I tried on several occasions asking about her what she had coming up in the next week, and she answered bluntly - and really, quite rudely. I asked why, and she said it was because I hurt her feelings by untagging the photo!

What do I do? Was she right to be upset, did I do something wrong?

[Mr. Miyagi]

Facebook is for losers. If you are in a power play over facebook... seriously, dude... get a life, both of you.

[Calvin]

As husband and wife, we should respect each other. Tell her what you felt about her action, and discuss about how your actions had made her upset. You two should communicate about the problem or else it wouldn't settle isn't it You two should make the decision together and do what is good and right to your consciences and to God. In the face of this, you get to know each other better, isn't it good. Good communication, there's more to go, but may God in midst of all these, to settle and to maintain good relationships with each other, amen.

[lari1307]

Seems to me you should have been the one upset. What goes on facebook is FOREVER. If she has hurt feeling, what about yours? Are you saying your feelings were not hurt? I think you married a selfish pouting child. Tell her so. What kind of a wimp are you? She ignored your wish to not have a private photo made public, she ignored your wish to not take it down. What else has she ignored that has hurt your feelings and made you feel guilty of? I think the two of you need to learn to communicate and maybe get some counseling before you go to divorce court. No you did nothing wrong, and I am a female.

[Barb Outhere]

The fact that she put that photo out there when you had already told her that "I didn't want the photograph to be seen, but she did it anyway" is extremely disrespectful of her, and for her to put it out there on Facebook is stupid and cruel. And then for her to pout because, after asking her to take it off, and her saying she couldn't you "un-tagged" yourself so at least your name wouldn't be attached, and she's offended? Wow she really does think its all about her doesn't she?
You are right, and she is wrong, and it is that simple.

[mmm]

your wife is selfish bia*tch

you did NOTHING wrong

she needs to grow up

[Paul]

Personally I do not have or ever had a Facebook acct,however my wife does and my only request to her was absolutely no pics of any kind of me.
If I want my face on the internet I'll put it there myself. She honor's that request... As far as I know, lol.
It would be a invasion of my privacy otherwise.

[Dynamicarmy989]

It was extremely disrespectful for her to put the photo on FB after you asked her not to.

Why did she do it? Why is she so hostile that she wanted to humiliate you by posting a picture of you in your underwear? Or is she just flaky and thoughtless?

I'm guessing this incident was a symptom of something else going on.