She broke my heart over and OVER!?

[shawn]

My closest friend is a girl I met 5 years ago at college. We have such a deep history and got along incredibly well! We have been best friends up until 6 months ago when she began cutting me off.

She got a new job and began living a new lifestyle of clubbing, drinking, sex, etc.

We went from hanging out every weekend, to not hanging out at all! These past 6 months have been extremely lonely and extremely tough, and she only added to it. We would make plans and she'd break them like nothing!

She told me to give her a month of space, and then we would hang out. I did, and she didn't hang with me! I am being extremely patient with her!

2 weeks ago we were to hang out for the whole day. I bought her lunch as usual, and afterwards she wanted to go home, just 1 hour later! I was fed up with this, so I calmly told her were going to my house.

I personally know her life is very hard; she hates the city she lives in and loves my city, so I figured she'd enjoy a quiet day for once. Since she began crying, I drove her home after 25 minutes.

She now tells everyone I'm a psycho and I abducted her, etc.. I'm a completely sane person and It's been very hard going through this with her. I truly care about her and she still resists me..

Who is wrong in this situation?

[Searchtrack]

What type of relationship do you have with this female? If you're not formally dating her, get you a new friend to hangout with. Keep it MOVING!!

[Amz]

People change and grow at different speeds. She obviously needs to grow up.

It's time that you talk to her and tell her that while you have enjoyed her friendship, it's time for you to move on. You don't have to say "grow up", but you can say, "i've been hurt by your rejections and it feels as tho you are go a different direction than me." Then cut her off. Don't talk/text/ or look at her FB page (or other social media). Focus on finding new friends ... real friends.

I know it's hard to find new friends, but you will in time. I've hadda do it several times. It will give you some time to do some introspection and figure out who you are and what type of people you want in your life.