Was I Wrong to BREAK UP Her Marriage?

[???]

I suggest you "get a real job" -- as a waitress or anything else -- and spend less time making up weird stories on the internet.

SURE it did... you're just mad it was so obvious. Obviously you weren't meant to be a writer either.

[Ann]

She was wrong not to tip and to leave that comment, but you went way too far, I am sure it is also against the rules or illegal to use information from her credit card receipt to find out who she is. Unfortunately in this world there are people who are just mean and we all have to encounter them and be the bigger person and let it go.

[digimutt]

It is not our obligation to tip you anything. If you do not make enough money get another job. Why should we pay the cost of the meal and still have to pay the server. That is the obligation of your employer.

What you did is beyond reprehensible and way over the top in comparison to why you did it. This show that you are a horrible vindictive and rather ignorant person. What did you think was going to happen when you did this? Did you even consider that there might be children involved. You had no right to retaliate because someone did not tip you. You and all servers need to get this right A tip is a gift from your customer but they have absolutely NO responsibility to augment your salary. You know that what goes around comes back around and you got a lot of bad karma coming your way. I hope it punishes you a lot. Shame on you You do not deserve to ever get another tip. You should be so ashamed of what you did and afraid of the cosmic pay back for your evil childish and uncalled for actions. You are a disgrace

[jm0987rose]

If people are obligated to tip, why aren't you obligated to be
decent. On some level, that same woman is you and you could be her. You're both wrong in that you don't know when to stop. It was just someone being an a$$hole, or was it that some of what she said struck a nerve as truth. As much as she would like to believe, her husband didn't just divorce her because you. Like you, she has issues, too. Like you, she was probably a shrew long before you were her waitress.
Yes, you are wrong!

[.]

If this story is true...yes you were definitely wrong to break up the marriage.

While I agree with you, being a waitress is a difficult job, I to have worked in the food industry and I know how its like to not receive tips from customers. But let me ask you something, have you ever thought about their financial situation? Do you think you are the only one in the world with financial problems? Do you even know how that other lady's financial problems are?

She must have a reason as to why she did not tip you. Most likely its because many customers believe that waitresses receive enough tips from other customers, so why bother. While that may be true but this idea is incorrect, it is nice to help out once in a while.

I personally think you need to mentally toughen up because the entire human race is like this, brutal, cold-hearted, and evil. If you did not like the fact that she did not tip you, you should not have cried over it. Because there might be others who can tip better and you will receive better in the future.

But what you did was very wrong and evil, you destroy a couple's marriage. You lied to the wife about husband cheating. How do you think the husband is feeling now? When their divorce happened, how do you think he felt during the hearing, signing of papers?

What I would suggest is that you block her and her husband, never be in contact with the two, delete your fake profile and avoid as much as possible. Move on with your life and only look back to one thing, that you need to be emotionally strong. Control your overreacting behavior as this could do more harm to you and maybe others.

Emotionally toughen yourself because there are more customers out there who will do the exact same thing as her so prepare yourself for the worse.

[DevilDoll]

So many things to say here. Let me start with this: you came on here looking for people to validate your actions. People will not because you are wrong. I have worked in the food service industry for many years, and have encountered similar situations, so I know what I am talking about.
Secondly, stop making updates. If you counter every single comment every person makes you'll be glued to the computer for a year. So stop updating, your story is not that important.
What you did is what I would call an @$$hole move; however, that being said I don't think you ended her marriage. Something as lame as a fake profile could never tear my husband away from me. Things in their marriage had to be pretty bad already for a fake Facebook profile to be the last straw. Perhaps that is why she was so nasty in the first place. Maybe she knew her marriage was coming to an end and took it out on you. Who knows? The point is that there's no way you single handedly ended her marriage. Especially if she wanted him back and he still filed for divorce. Maybe that was his "out."
At the end of the day, I think you completely overreacted and you definitely cross boundaries and likes that I would never cross. Try to remember that you are not perfect, just like her, and god forbid one day you piss someone off and they have the same reaction to you that you had to her. Then you'll be here on this message board again complaining about the waitress who ruined your marriage just because she didn't like your attitude.
See how that works? Quit being a f****** kunt.

[GoBolts21]

I can understand being upset over the not so kind comment the woman left you. However, you shouldn't have been vindictive towards her and taken it to the level you did. It's not a good way to go about your life when someone wrongs you and you get back at them because you feel they deserved it. Legally speaking, I don't think you have broken any laws. It's possible the husband can sue you for defamation of character, but the wife can't. It would be a hard case to win in civil court because the wife should have believed her husband. It sounds like there could have been more issues with the marriage. Most states have cyber harassment laws, but there is so much grey area, I doubt a D.A. would prosecute you over one Facebook post.

[Tammy]

Lol you are such a bum.

[Pat]

Seems quite a few people on here are judging you unfairly in my opinion.

First off i must say two wrongs don't make a right. That said what's done is done and now its down to damage limitation.
She never should have written what she wrote and insulted you, equally you should not have reacted in the manner that you did.

You obviously took offence and reacted without putting any thought into the consequences of your actions, and in your defence hindsight is 20/20 and had you known i figure you would have not reacted the way you did.

Your defence should be you actions were set off by her insult directed at you and you were not in a normal frame of mind.

One other thing i must add, her marriage can't have been that strong if they are still going ahead with the divorce over this and more so the fact they both know it was fake.

Hope it works out for you and going forward remember look before you leap.

[Patricia]

Hi.. i understand full well what it's like to work in your industry, but i have never been this angry or resentful, because on the inside, i'm content being me. Some people are CRASS and STUPID and have no clue about what it takes to be a waitress. And the lady was ignorant, i'll agree with you there.

what i don't agree with is the revenge and wrecking someone's life over a $10 tip. However, i also have the idea that you can't wreck a good marriage. I imagine their marriage already sucked?

Your pain is real and that's a fact... even so, harming others because they are stupid, is never a good idea. I have been hurt by many people during the course of my life, and what i have come to realize is -- a person's cruely and meanness is NEVER about me, but it's abou tthem and their inner misery and self-hate. ...... but that's just my opinion