Would it bother you if your husband was doing this?

[Crys]

So my husband is always going to check up on his ex girlfriends Facebook page. They're not friends on Facebook but i've caught him going to her page all the time. And then the other day we were in the car and he asked me if I thought she was pretty. And I was like "idk, she's not pretty but she's not ugly either." and right away he got defensive and started saying she is really pretty and when they were together she always got compliments on how beautiful she was blah blah blah. Not only that he requested her sister on fb which I found odd since it's not like they're friends but i'm like ok well they do know each other from when he used to date her sister. But then he requested one of her friends which he does not know at all! and he's always telling me she's really pretty just like how he does with his ex gf. I just find it disrespectful. & I think he noticed i got bothered last time and he was like bringing up some guy i dated for a little while before him saying he was ugly and i'm like "ok, that's fine" but mind you I never bring him up, like he brings up his ex gf and how beautiful she is. I just feel like he crosses the line. And the fact that he's always looking at her profile is weird to me. opinions?

[placeboni]

He's an idiot.
It is never OK to say an ex is attractive, who in their right mind would do that?
You're absolutely right to be angry with him. Try talking to him about how it makes you feel, if not, give him a taste of his own medicine! Make up an imaginary ex if you have to and talk about how attractive he was and how amazing in bed he was,
I would!!

[Ocimom]

Entertaining thoughts of an ex (especially when married) is a yellow-red flag. Thoughts can change to actions and he may be thinking about personally contacting her....leading to cheating.

I'd have a very serious discussion as to why he feels he needs to "keep track of an ex" so much.

[amyhpete]

Your husband, at the very least, still has a bone in his pants of this ex girlfriend. It's very disrespectful to you. You're within your rights to tell him to stop. On the other hand, if he's requested this woman's sister and friend, but not her, then he's chicken to talk to her, which is kind of funny and cute. Or if he requested her and she declined him, you have nothing to worry about.

If it goes on on a daily basis for a while, you might PM her to tell her that this is humiliating, but he looks at her page daily, and if she finds that not to be a positive thing, she might actually help him by blocking him, or at least limiting him from seeing her pics and nonpublic posts.

My husband and I get along great, and I guess if I thought he was looking at his ex girlfriend, I would encourage him to request her, ask her to add me, too, and get to know her as a person, but that's just us. I'm friends with all my high school boyfriends -- my college ones before my husband won't add me. :-P

[Jessica]

He is playing you & trying to bring your self esteem down. I promise this relationship wont end pretty. I say you fuck him over. He obviously doesn't care about you. Go out with 1 of his friends. when he lets you catch him cheating he isnt going to care about how you feel.

[mmm]

bother me?

um, it wouldn't be a bother any longer because he would be gone

if he EVER mentioned an ex was beautiful - I would simply say - well you can have her and leave FOR GOOD

you are being emotionally abused and don't know it - he is still madly in love with his ex and doesn't even realize it

any man that would go so far as to ask your opinion of her looks? he has a sick freaking obsession and needs counseling . . .

weird? NO - WRONG, YES

[viana]

Sorry to say this honey. But from a lot of peoples experiences which I witnessed, it seems he is bored with your relationship. You should be his one and only idea of a pretty woman. Secondly, he is very disrespectful and doesn't care about your feelings. When men start acting this way. It is because they are cheating or they want to start cheating. He is not only attracted to his Ex but he is generally attracted to the opposite sex. He want to play around if its possible. But I think he has cheated on u b4 and because he gets away with it, he feels u re stupid and would not suspect nothing even if he discusses other women with u. Open your eyes. Usually when a woman starts been so insecure and unsure its because something is not right. Women have good instincts when it comes to issues like this. Be strong, and watch out.

[Lexxi]

uh, yeah! thats not a good sign! if my boyfriend or husband was bringing up a ex and saying shes pretty and cyber stalking her id flip out! you need to talk to him and put a stop to this before it leads to him trying to hook up with her or something. tell him it bothers you and ask why it seems like hes so much more interested in her than you. and if it doesnt stop or he realizes he is still in love with her then you need to call it quits with him.

[Another Crone]

Sit him down, pour a shot of whiskey for both of you, and explain to him that he needs to put her away. Out of his heart, out of his life, out of his speech, out of your marriage.

It isn't a matter of his rights. He's hurting you. He's hurting you over another woman and it is eroding your faith in him and your trust in the future you thought you were building together. Just tell him.

It's not a big fight. It's a fact. And it's one he needs to know.

[DelightfulTiny]

That is weird. And honestly, I think he's trying to get a rise out of you, for whatever reason.
It might be a pride/macho/egotistical thing. He has low self-esteem and is trying, inadvertently, to make you think he could get any girl, or any HOT chick he wanted. It's really quite pathetic and immature if you ask me.

Have you asked him point blank why he makes comments like that? Turn it around and ask him if he thinks his ex is prettier than you are (he will probably fumble around or make an insincere compliment about you). Then turn back to him and say, "well, I think you're the best looking man I've ever been with, but honestly, my ex so-and-so was way better in bed!! (LOL ok, I'm just joking about that last part).

Ask him to delete those girls as his friends because you feel disrespected. If he gets defensive or flat out refuses to do so, than you have a serious problem. Keep your gaurd up.