Problems with dating a girl with anxiety and panic attacks?

[Phantomname195]

Hi fellows!
To start with im new to this so apologies if i get anything really wrong

Basically myself and this girl (lets call her susan) have kind of been having this thing for a few months now. We both go to the same college for the moment until I move on In a couple of months so I will rarely see her (but still be in the same town). We started just talking in college and FB, the usual friendly things but every time I ask her out on for a drink she always says shes busy, the typical excuse which means no.

Last weekend we went out with a group of mates into town, we both got pretty drunk and we ended sleeping together, although it wasnt awkward afterwards we haven't really talked about it and everything seemed fairly normal afterwards.

Recently I spoke to her about how I felt for her and how she feels about me, responding susan said that shes really messed up and thinks having a relationship isnt good at the moment cause of her anxiety and so on. When I said I could help her though them she just bolted.

What should I do? I mean I still really like her and I think there's a connection, but shes just worried about her anxiety if we have a relationship, Im struggling to move on because of my feeling towards her but I can just wait around forever until susan gets better (if she ever does).

Any answers would be greatly appreciated because Im well and truly stuck on this one.
Thanks

[Steve11]

Make sure you have the Xanax on hand...

[Emily]

Man, that's a hard place to be in. Ok, so my advice: girls love it when guys show they care. So, next time you see her, give her a compliment, hug her, something like that. Go slow, if she had panic attacks don't dump all your feelings and crap on her! Duh she bolted! Eventually she will grow close enough to talk to her don't force her though. Say that you're always open to talk to once in a while( not every day, once in a while, like once a week). Good luck!

[Nikki]

Speaking as someone with anxiety, being in a stable and loving relationship has helped me control my problem better than medication ever did. (It helps that I changed my diet and exercise regime as well but that's besides the point.) My boyfriend is the rock that keeps me stable when my brain tries to take me off the deep end. For this girl, having someone there who she can rely on and talk to could actually help.

But you really need to take a look at yourself before jumping into this thing. Dating a girl with anxiety issues (and hers sound severe if she cited them as a reason not to date) could be very difficult for you. I have a friend whose anxiety issues are much worse than mine and I can see that her boyfriend get's very frustrated when she does things like make a fuss to a waiter, or cry at a bar - for whatever reason.

If you think this over and you like her so much that you can handle her anxiety, then you tell her that in a firm voice, and hopefully she will see it.