husband and bro in law watch porn on Facebook should i get out of their family by means of divorce?

[Salina]

my husband works abroad, i have his facebook username and password so i can see what hes been upto. sometimes i go on to his fb and see his synced private photos and he has pictures of naked ladies and he likes pages based on naked ladies. this breaks my heart and i wish i had never married him. he doesnt know that i know all this stuff. what shall i do now?

[....]

Say to him that him watching all those things are bothering you

[Megz]

Honestly I dont think thats a reason for divorce. Porn is not real girls he is not having an affair. It is human nature to be be attracted to opposite sex. As long as he doesnt act on anything.

[Rachel]

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I was married to a man who did these things, and for 11 yrs I chased him down, I saw all the things he was looking at, although he denied everything. You have to make a decision about that one, because you have to think what you can tolerate and what you cannot. This is not right what he's doing, I don't care what anyone says that "all men look at porn". No. Not true. If the man really loves his woman and has respect for her and their relationship, he will put her interest ahead of his own. He's being selfish doing this. I know for a fact this is killing you, because everytime you open his facebook and you see that, that tears you up. I know you want to fix this, but honestly, I tried too, and I could never fix my ex. He was the way he was, and we ended up divorcing, very sad.

[Yohan]

I am not saying it's right, but the fun part is most of the future guys you will meet will likely check porn out seeing it's availability. So divorce this guy if you feel right, but I am willing to bet you good money that if this is the main reason you want to leave the guy, I am curious if you will meet a guy who is not watching porn to some degree. He might exist, but exceptionally rare.

You might find him if he avoids the Internet. Oddly I see these questions at least 50 times a day on Answers with upset women who are mad about their partner's porn addiction.

[Sabah]

Asalamu Alaikum
I know we all want to do everything possible to avoid divorce for good reason, and divorce is not encouraged without good reason, but I just thought it would be a good idea to put out some information about some commonly quoted hadith about divorce, one which is weak, one which is fabricated. This way we can increase or understanding and not attribute anything to the Prophet, saaws, that should not be attributed to him which is lying against the Prophet, saaws. Jazak Allah khairun.

It has been narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most hated of permissible things to Allaah is divorce.”
This hadith is weak, Allah alim. http://islamqa.com/en/ref/120761/

It has been narrated from ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not issue divorce, for the Throne shakes because of divorce.” This is considered weak and fabricated Allah alim. http://islamqa.com/en/ref/43498/

just tell him the issue that are disturbing you and sort it out.

[Jackie]

First of all, you should not act like you're innocent in all of this. You are spying on him and invading his privacy.

And like others have said, a lot of guys watch porn. That doesn't mean that they are unfaithful, just that they are men, and biologically, if you are not around for him to have sex with, he needs to get his rocks off somehow.

But if it bothers you so much, talk to him. Be warned though, he will probably be angry to know that you have been using his Facebook password and logging into his account.

[WOLOLO Monk]

Deactivate his facebook, there goes his porn problems. Honestly all men watch porn.

If you don't look as good as the ladies he watches on internet, then he will turn to someone else for his entertainment.

Welcome to life, where things don't go your way!

[freedom fighter]

Confront him with his porn and explain you feelings to him.