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I need some relationship advice. Can you help?
04-28-2014, 08:05 PM
Post: #1
I need some relationship advice. Can you help?
Some background information is necessary, I think, in order to give you the best understanding of my situation. I'm a 15 year old girl who has, recently, become sexually active with a boy 3 years my senior, who I met last year as he was a peer tutor in my art class. At first, when I met him, it was a little crush, then it developed into something that really hurt to think about. The year was ending, though, and I was coming to terms with the fact that he wouldn't be at the school anymore.
To my somewhat pleasant disbelief, he had failed to obtain a couple of English credits and had to come back for another year. We started talking more on Facebook and I saw him around, but he was always sort of in the back of my mind. Our relationship sort of started speeding up when I was telling him of an art project that I was stumped on and he invited me to his house so we could work on it. I took him up on the offer, and hardly any work was achieved. We awkwardly watched Django Unchained and ended it with him telling me that he was thinking of making out with me, but that he didn't want to hurt me (emotionally).
I pretty much ignored the last bit, and we ended up getting quite physical. A weekend separated us and the tension built, until we hung out the following Monday and had sex.

Now, I'm sure most would think I'm much too young, and it seems rather whorish that I'd let a boy I had only hung out with outside of school once before take my virginity during the second hang out, and I totally agree. I was ready mentally, but not physically or emotionally, and it's really starting to fuck with my head. We've had sex 5 times since, and I feel soiled and like I'll never be wanted again. He says he usually has trouble developing feelings for girls, but should have no problem feeling something for me (we have a lot in common), but I'm not sure if that's what I want.
At first, it was a sort of thrill. And the sex was good; not great, but good. My conscious is getting to me now, though, and I want to cry whenever I'm reminded of the innocence I'll never had again. He says he feels bad, that he forces it on me because he's persistent and stubborn, and I'd be lying if I said he's wrong.

On top of everything, we've met each others parents. This isn't sitting right with me because I'm not sure just how emotionally involved I want to be with this boy. Is that wrong? Am I in the wrong in this all? How can I chase these feelings away, or fix the mess I've created?

I'd appreciate serious, well-thought answers, please. I'm really not in the mood for anything harsh or judgemental. I'm a young women who still wants to be my daddy's little girl, but feels she'll be wanted by no one when this is over.

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04-28-2014, 08:14 PM
Post: #2
 
speak to the boy about this. If you think that you can carry on with a relationship- an emotional one- then go for it. If it is just for sex, baby you've got your whole life ahead of you. He is jerk who is using you just for sex. Have some warm chocolate, watch good ol' movies and try to forget about it. Just don't do anything you will regret later. Whatever has happened has happened, you can't change it now. Just try to forget all this.

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04-28-2014, 08:21 PM
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I think u need to let go of this guy because with his prence, it'll be ur constant reminder. May be uve made mistakes, uve learnt ur lesson but I strongle with this guy pushing it upon u like that. What sort of gentleman is that?

Don't feel presurised into it any more, move on and times a healer x
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