Did I make the right choice leaving?

[Hannah]

My (ex) boyfriend truly did treat me like a queen... Most of the time. He was handsome and successful and loved planning our future together with our dog and plans to buy a new home. Of course, things weren't always perfect. He was moody when he wanted to be, and when he heard a rumor he was quick to believe it if it involved me.

Two weeks ago I caught a female texting him about wanting to meet him, but I fully (even still) believe he never would have. He was ALWAYS with me. Then two nights ago he came home from hanging with a friend at his bar and immediately started accusing me of creating a fake dating profile with his picture on it and messaging the same girl I caught texting him. (this girl has lied in the recent past... My boyfriend blocked her number and she started facebook messaging me and when I showed my boyfriend the messages he asked her and she denied it... Even with my black and white proof.

So when he accused me I wasn't fully shocked... A friend of mine on the same dating website asked me why my boyfriend was on the site... She saw his fake page (clear it's fake, his picture was his facebook cover photo and the about me was nothing but a bunch of random letters like 'sdkjghkjghsdkjfhskdjgh') and told me to look at it. So I looked that afternoon before he came home and began accusing me. So when he grabbed my phone he saw it on my phone. He was drunk and so mad he started pushing me around and throwing things at me.

The next morning I began to pack my things and asked him if he wanted this to work out. He claimed he couldnt trust me anymore for not telling him immediately I saw the fake profile and using it against me that the same female he knew I was uncomfortable with told him.

I'm almost POSITIVE she crested the fake dating profile to use as leverage to break us up and create doubts in my ex boyfriends head.

When I finished packing I took our dog and locked him in the car so I could keep him. My ex got so mad he blocked me in the garage with my vehicle by moving his car behind mine, picked me up by my neck and threw me in attempt to unlock my car door, then went inside and locked the doors (I had already given my keys back so I couldn't enter) and I was completely trapped in the garage. I had no choice but to call the police as he left for work and I couldn't get out. When they arrived they saw i had some bruises and in our state it's mandatory they file a warrant and arrest.

They also advised me I was allowed to break into the house since I lived there and so I broke into the front window to grab the keys to his car blocking me in and move it so I could leave.

I heard he posted his bond and got out of arrest. Despite everything I still want to be with him. Am I crazy?

[Mikki]

If there is no trust, there is no relationship. You absolutely did the right thing.

[Lord THand]

Yes you did. And I think it would be wise of you not to go back with him. Don't get into that whole mindset that "the more you suffer, the more it shows he really cares", because you could end up dead, maimed, or seriously emotionally damaged for a long time.

Oh, his behaviour was not just a phase. And you can't fix or change him. He has to do that himself.

Goodluck, and have fun should you decide to stay with him.

[Dian]

Yes, U R Crazy !!!!!!!! This relationship is OVER !!!!! U can go back for a couple of more beatings and your possible death or U can end this now and NEVER look back !! PLEASE CHOSE LIFE !!!

[wizzard]

Sounds like my gfs and me, It is pationate your love for each other and so you will also be pationate in your break ups, I wish I could say, we have been totether for over 8 years, we have had 3 bad break ups, once she put me in jail after attacking me then lying to the cops, I had to go to trial to beat those charges, and our fights have cost us a lot of time and money. right now we are together again, but fighting like we will again be breaking up, It seems obovious to others that we should not be togethger because we will just have the same problems so why are we together then? All I can say is that we love each other, and our fights like yours are because of jealously weather false or real it all hurts and is the main cause of our problems. I am happy being with her forever but she doesn't beleive me when I say that. She says she loves me, but needs sex from several other guys and that mostly is ok with me, but she does get out of control sometimes, and the jealously will get me doubting weather or not she cares for me at all, and is just using me for sex, and as a means to get more, as it is rare to find a guy that is ok with sharring his gf. All I can say is talk with him, beleive what he has to say and be honest with him and give it your best try, you might not ever find anyone you care so much for again, and you may not have another chance with him if you let him get away. Hopefully he is willing to give you the same respect that you need to give him. Thats what it comes down to respect. With it you have a chance without it, don't even try it. Good luck. I posted my problem today also. If you want to stay in touch and let each other know how it turns out I'd be glad to. My name is Stephen.

[Jenny]

Please, please...... stay away from him... The fact that he has become violent and abusive should say it all..... Things will only get worse if you go back to him.... You deserve better than that.

[Katsmom37]

Sounds like a ridiculous fight that got blown way out of proportion and escalated quickly. What you should have done is remained calm whenever he was accusing you of creating the fake profile and called your friend over to back up your story.

It sounds to me like he's a victim of someone else's craziness and they are really effing around with him and trying to make it seem like you are doing it (I personally suspect this crazy chick of being the one creating the fake profile and making it seem like it was you).

There's some evilness here at work and if it's this one chick, then I'm thinking restraining order is your and your bf's best bet. I've seen this kind of work before from some pretty messed up chicks so I can relate lol.