Will my ex bf ever trust me after repeated drug abuse?

[Amazingbun798]

Please no mean responses I didn't ask for that. So my ex bf and I have been together for 6 years, we have a 16 month old daughter as well. We've been through a lot, he joined the marines, I get pregnant. It was traumatizing in every way, she almost died multiple times. 2 weeks before she was born we had 2 in utero surgurys. Baby came 2weeks later, became healthier everyday. I used drugs when I was younger, but 4 months after I had her I relapsed and lost my job. I got sober and promised to never do this to him again. I have a job again all was settling back in almost a year later and i have a friend on fb that sells Xanax. My ex has been gone all day then home in time to eat and sleep due to some schooling so I've been handle ing everything else to make his load lighter including caring for our 16 month old solo. I've been over whelmed depressed and lonley, so of course I message this "drug dealer" to get a Xanax. I never got it, but my ex read the message the next day. We are now separated, I'm at my mothers and we share custody of our daughter. I love him and am in therapy to deal with my issues, I want to know if I can gain back that trust, im willing to be patient I love him so much and miss him, and would love some reassurance that he might just might, let me back in his heart. I know he is still physically attracted to me he compliments me and flirts, talks about having sex with me. Idk, please help guys!

[Chanel]

You be strong and prove what a good mother and person you are. Tell him that messaging that dealer was a huge mistake and it won't happen again.

Give your bfd time to trust you again.

[Ellie]

Actions speak louder than words, extreme stress triggered your relapse, so you need to do something to help you manage your stress and even getting into an AA or other support group will help you do that.

[Matt]

Don't tell him you won't ever do it again, he doesn't trust you right now, hearing "baby I sorry, I'll never do it again" is the most annoying thing a guy can hear when a girl has betrayed his trust yet again.

So try this instead, tell him in a calm but empathetic speaking voice "I know I betrayed your trust and for that I am sorry, I wish I could tell you that I'll never do this again but honestly sometimes I get weak and my judgement wains, what I do know is I don't like upsetting you or making you feel like this, like you can't trust me. I can only hope to repair the damage I've done and I hope you can help me or at least give me the chance to try."

You don't have to copy and paste but yah something along the lines of owning up to your mistake without giving him some crap about how you'll never do it again...because it's the last thing he wants to hear for the 2nd or 3rd time you've said it.