He has broken me, I feel drained. He has made me so miserable, yet he has met someone new in 4 weeks. Why me?

[faithfulgiraffe562]

He put me through hell, yet he has a new girlfriend (after 3 weeks) and I'm upset! How can I forget him? Why do I feel hurt?
My ex/partner is in the Army. He is 25 & i am 21.

We broke up 2 weeks ago and he already has a new girlfriend! They have been to London! And have uploaded photos together!

When i first met my ex/partner, he promised me the world. He took me to central London & we stayed in a nice hotel etc.. He treated me like i never had been treated. He rang me every night etc.


Little did i know, he was in mountains of debt, & was still paying back payday loans and had bailiffs turning up to his house. A few months into the relationship i found myself paying for everything.. i had to drive up to London to his barracks to see him, pay for his food, go on nights out with him and pay, and holidays..

He is also a compulsive liar.

However, he would always talk to/sleep with other girls. He would go out and ring me, & when he was in his room i would hear another girl, then he would hang up. His friends have told me girls have stayed in his barracks on numerous occasions.

Why do I care he has a new girl?

I can't stop checking their facebooks to see if they have pictures together... Does this make me crazy?

I saw a picture of them together on Instagram and it made me feel physically sick!!

But WHY do I still love him after all of this hurt? How am I going to get over it all?!
I wish I could just delete him from my life. He probably isn't thinking about me

[Bazza]

He certainly did a thorough job on you. Shame you can't accept it.

[massivebaseball529]

Sounds rough. Honestly, the best thing you can do for yourself is remove all contact with him. Delete him from facebook and any other social networking sites you have him on and then you won't have to be dealing with seeing pictures of him and other girls. From what you've described, he sounds like a terrible boyfriend. Anytime you feel bad about the break up, come back and read what you've just wrote and you'll be reminded of how much he's hurt you. Also, the fact that he's taken this girl to London already and at the beginning of your relationship you went to London together, suggests he's trying to get your attention and make you jealous. Don't give him the satisfaction. Good luck moving forward with your life <3.

[xXx]

Get over it. If hes that bad then why are you bothered he has a new gf. Btw since he was in dept and you were paying for things, but then he was sleeping with other girls, im guessing he was just using you as a sugar mama. He never liked you. But you opened yourself up to is and you still are by caring about him. How about caring about al the money you lost!

[OwlAlwaysLoveWine]

You're idealizing him, you gotta stop. He sounds like a loser. He sounds like a shmoozer who may have just been using you for your money, telling you everything you wanted to hear and "promising you the world". You deserve better than that. Breakups are rough no matter what the circumstance, so I get it, but consider all the money you'll be saving NOT being with him. Let the other girl go into debt because of him. Not your problem anymore! Find someone more stable who likes you for you, not your money!!

Good luck!

[Jody]

you need to re-read how you talked about this dude and ask yourself WHY DO YOU MISS HIM? He sounds so unworthy of a good woman and now he is gonna milk this new girl and your jealous of her? Think about this real hard and i can garauntee if you sincerely do you'll stop being bothered by all this and maybe even thankful you dodged a bullet because thats exactly what he was.

[Tigerlily ❤]

You are going through a loss, even if it is this fool. He has used you, and of course you feel upset and cheated. He hasn't broken you, believe me! Give yourself a set time to get over him, and stop looking him up. You have escaped a no hoper, how long will it be before this latest woman is conned for money and spat out. Hard as it is, you had a lucky escape.

[DV-Ant]

You joined as a volunteer,you can leave.
FAST.

[Liz]

You made yourself miserable by agreeing to be treated like dirt. We teach people how to treat us. If we lie down on the floor, they'll learn that we are doormats and they can walk all over us. Stop being a victim.