Someone please help me understand what's happening with my friend?

[228]

I have a good friend I met in mental health treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder 2 years ago. We've been good friends ever since, keeping in touch on FB and texting even though she lives in a different state.

I was having some issues with depression a couple of weeks ago and expressed these issues to her. She immediately became very reactive, wanting to fly out to see me, get me to a hospital, etc. I kept reassuring her I was fine and not suicidal but she wouldn't listen. A couple of weeks ago, she called the cops on me for a wellness check before even reaching out to me, claiming that she couldn't get in touch with me etc.

She texted me right after saying, "I know you'll probably never talk to me again" and "I know you hate me" even though I sent her a friendly text saying thanks for your concern, etc. I was a little miffed but I never expressed that to her.

She recently deactivated her FB page and then posted on her blog that I had terminated our friendship, gotten angry, rejected her, been cruel to her even though NONE of that happened. I never even expressed any anger towards her over this. I only responded with love and appreciation.

WHAT is wrong with her and what is she doing? And how should I go about handling this situation?

[Alissa]

Your 1st sentence could be the answer to your question.
She's ill and cares about u.
I think you should talk on the phone and work through this if you value your friendship

[elizabeth]

This happened to me a few years ago--a friend of mine suddenly declared that I had ruined her life, spread horrible rumors about her, and was basically a terrible person. (In her case, there was some suggestion from another friend of hers that I had done these things, but my friend pretty quickly came to believe it, and, to my knowledge, still does.) I later found out that my friend had been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

You mention that that's what you were in treatment for--was that your friend's diagnosis, too? Regardless, if your friend has a history of mental illness, she could be going through a rough patch right now, mentally. While she likely won't listen to any advice you can give right now, considering she thinks you've terminated your friendship/betrayed her/what have you, perhaps someone else close to her could try and get her help.

I know how frustrating it can be, having someone lash out or reject you for something you didn't do, but what helped me most was realizing that a) my friend's reaction wasn't my fault, b) I had done nothing wrong, and c) it wasn't her fault, either--she was struggling with a mental illness, and her reactions did not reflect personally on either of us.