why does he take forever yo respond back to my facebook message?

[Jane]

So 4 of my friends told me that this guy thinks I'm cute.

My group ran into his group on the street and from afar, i could see that he was looking/staring at me/my direction. Apparently when I was away, he whispered to my friends saying that I was cute. And even way before this, he saw my fb pics and asked one of my friends about me.

So at a kickback where we officially met, I had to get something from outside the backyard and my friend said "dude, I feel so bad just having her get something. JOHN (that's the guy's name) go with her!!"

But he didn't follow me

And also, we were in a small group and I asked one of his friends when he's free and he said this weekend and John said "I don't know" really fast and just turned around

My friends say he's shy and awkward around girls (especially girls he thinks he cute) but there was so many opportunities to talk to me and he was blowing me off especially when I asked him when he was free...

and before the night ended, his ride had to go. but i told his ride that he should stay for a bit and John agreed and told his ride to stay. He felt a bit reluctant to go when we were sitting together?

and when we were sitting together, his friend came over to my side and started talking to me and i was getting into the conversation and John just got up and walked over to the other side of the room (maybe he felt jealous..?)


But after that week, my friend said he was hanging out John and I asked him to mention john about me. he told my friend that he couldn't wait till summer (meaning he couldn't wait till the summer to see me)

fast-foward to this week (a month later...)
i finally fb messaged him. We didn't talk much because he was taking hours (sometimes, he would reply back the next day) to reply back. We started talking on Monday and when i checked the fb chat today, he read/seen my most recent msg, but didn't reply back

so i figured that he lost interest and i was a bit sad but i forgot about it and moved on. But 5-6 hours later, right before i was about to sleep, he replied back to my fb msg.

I guess he was busy when he saw my msg? I don't expect him to drop everything he was doing to respond back. But I'm just glad that he remembered about me haha


so is it a good thing he did this?
So 4 of my friends told me that this guy thinks I'm cute.

My group ran into his group on the street and from afar, i could see that he was looking/staring at me/my direction. Apparently when I was away, he whispered to my friends saying that I was cute. And even way before this, he saw my fb pics and asked one of my friends about me.

So at a kickback where we officially met, I had to get something from outside the backyard and my friend said "dude, I feel so bad just having her get something. JOHN (that's the guy's name) go with her!!"

But he didn't follow me

And also, we were in a small group and I asked one of his friends when he's free and he said this weekend and John said "I don't know" really fast and just turned around

My friends say he's shy and awkward around girls (especially girls he thinks he cute) but there was so many opportunities to talk to me and he was blowing me off especially when I asked him when he was free...

and before the night ended, his ride had to go. but i told his ride that he should stay for a bit and John agreed and told his ride to stay. He felt a bit reluctant to go when we were sitting together?

and when we were sitting together, his friend came over to my side and started talking to me and i was getting into the conversation and John just got up and walked over to the other side of the room (maybe he felt jealous..?)


But after that week, my friend said he was hanging out John and I asked him to mention john about me. he told my friend that he couldn't wait till summer (meaning he couldn't wait till the summer to see me)

fast-foward to this week (a month later...)
i finally fb messaged him. We didn't talk much because he was taking hours (sometimes, he would reply back the next day) to reply back. We started talking on Monday and when i checked the fb chat today, he read/seen my most recent msg, but didn't reply back

so i figured that he lost interest and i was a bit sad but i forgot about it and moved on. But 5-6 hours later, right before i was about to sleep, he replied back to my fb msg.

I guess he was busy when he saw my msg? I don't expect him to drop everything he was doing to respond back. But I'm just glad that he remembered about me haha


so is it a good thing he did this?

but the last time i sent him a message was on thursday night and he hasn't read it/replied back since. but i sometimes see his green chat light on on facebook chat...but very briefly and then it goes off.

[jackiedog]

Maybe he's to busy to respond, maybe he's not sure what to say, maybe he's shy, maybe he just met someone he's interested in more, maybe he doesn't take texts or Facebook messages as seriously as you, maybe he's not looking for a relationship, maybe he doesn't know what he wants, maybe he's playing coy, maybe he prefers face to face conversation, maybe he's afraid of leading you on, maybe he lost interest, maybe he's too nervous. There's any number of reasons why he hasn't gotten back to you. I've had guys I'm interested in, respond within minutes of me messaging them. Then after I message them back they take a week or two to reply back. It's annoying as hell when you don't know what's happening on the other person's end. However, it what it is. I would suggest you don't over think it. The next time you see him, keep it casual, say hello, and see how it goes from there.