I'm in love with a dead man?

[Rachel]

I'm 18 and i'm in love (or maybe just infatuated) with an actor, George Sanders, who would be 107 years old today. I first fell in love with him when I saw All About Eve...His voice was so deep and handsome, it just resonated in my mind. And he was so witty and intelligent. I began reading biographies and watching more of his movies. It wasn't long before I started comparing him to everyone I met. No one seems good enough to be a part of my life anymore, it's become somewhat of a problem. Every time someone talks to me, I think something along the lines of, "You're not nearly as charming or as well spoken as George Sanders was." or simply just, "You're not George Sanders." And then I get really depressed because the only person I love in this world has left it and no one I've met is even remotely like him. Is this normal behavior for someone my age or am I being stupid? I don't know what to do with myself...I just want so badly to talk to him and listen to his beautiful words and handsome voice while we take a walk in the park, or something else less cliche...

[Takeru]

...This is, for sure, not normal behavior for an 18 year old....

[Shabbir]

infatuation in both genders is a common thing in these age group. No problem in some days you will come out of it. Try to do something instead of thinking about him all the day and you will find person who be loving and caring

[Timothy]

You aren't in love, it's infatuation and even your description of why you think you are is more along the definition of infatuation...Also, it's very unhealthy to obseses about a fantasy.

[Brent G]

Old Hollywood is alluring because Twitter and TMZ and the fact that everyone has a camera has killed the illusion of the modern "movie star." Old Hollywood stars were not tracked on a daily basis and had all their public escapades be frontline news, thus people saw them as perfectly manufactured quasi-idols and not normal people...which is why you still see him as the perfect symbol of manhood.
However, that symbol is not real, so when we live now in a world where we know everything about everyone it is impossible for another man to live up to that idealized symbol.

George was a real person and I'm sure he did regular man stuff that would be fodder for the tabloids just like every male actor today (sorry to burst your bubble), so it is important to remember that when comparing the guys you are meeting today to him. There is nothing wrong with setting your aim high, just be realistic of your expectations and make sure it is a fair and attainable image for the guy to uphold...knowing full well they can't be a perfect "Old Hollywood" star.

Hope that helps.