Is inboxing an ex on FB while you're in a relationship considered cheating?

[Amber]

I searched for my ex from when I was 16 on FB, and I found him, added him as a friend, and we were inboxing each other for a few weeks. I only thought about him because I always tell people that he was the best kisser I've ever had. I'm 28 now, and at first, I did wonder what could have happened between us, but then I came to my senses and realized that I don't care what could have happened between us, I really LOVE the man that I am with and I really shouldn't be talking to him. So I told him we shouldn't chat anymore and cut ties with him. Did I cheat? I felt so bad because I know how my honey would have felt if he found out that I was chatting with an ex, and I wouldn't want that done to me.
I should have mentioned that he DID flirt with me a LOT, and he kept begging to see me. I told him no. He said he just wanted to be my friend, but I DO NOT believe him.

[Klaus]

You aren't cheating. I've talked to my ex before. As long as he/she doesn't try to make a move on you or starts trying to flirt with you, you're fine. After all, it's just a person that you don't like anymore

[Newyorkcity_X]

It's not cheating no.... But it's just a bit disrespectful to your man.

[ssr]

Not cheating.. Good job in cutting that off you never know what if he wouldve convinced you to meet up? Then that couldve wouldve lead to cheating.

[Mark]

No, its not cheating. I would not have chatted with him because you gotta think of the whole picture, before I start by no means am I blaming you. First off, you say you dearly love your man (which I believe!), but here's the thing what would happen if he found out you were messaging an ex on facebook? Would he assume the worst? Would he have trust issues assuming you are hiding something? Could him have lack of trust lead to a break up? You gotta see the whole picture, something as innocent as messaging an ex can cause problems later down the road; so you weigh out your options is the friendship of this ex really worth jeopardizing your current relationship? That's for you to answer, but I assume from what you've said that its an easy "NO!" Part of getting serious in a relationship and continuing the seriousness is cutting ties with all exs (unless kids are involved), that why if for some God awful reason down the road someone tries to say "Yeah I slept with your woman." All you have to say is "Stop right there, because you and I both know that isn't true because I haven't had ANY type of contact with you since we broke up." By cutting the ties you really are putting a security around your relationship and make it invincible to outside sources ruining it. Same sex friends are OK, but as far as ex's go I wouldn't go there and as far as texting and calling guy friends often that's pushing it. You don't want to plant a seed of doubt in your significant other's head to ever risk your relationship. Best of luck to your dear!