How to get over my gay ex? Even though my mom won't let me date or accept me for who I am.?

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Ok so I'm gay (please don't judge). I dated a guy when I was 16 years old and he was 14 years old (I'm currently 18 years old, but now he is 16 years old). He was in 8th grade and I was in 10th grade. I am now a senior in high school but I moved from San Diego, CA to Los Angeles, CA in November 2012. I first had a relationship with him from early January 2012 to like mid March 2012 and my mom didn't know a thing about it AT ALL. The reason why it was hidden was because at the time when I was just friends with him she asked my to stay away from him because he's gay and she's a homophobic too. We had to eventually break it off because it was putting too much pressure on him and I having to hide it. I had come out to all of my friends at school during my relationship with him and they all supported me. About a month after him and I broke up I came out to my mom and she refused to accept me for who I am and asked me questions that made me feel uncomfortable. Even before I came out I was still going to move to LA but I didn't actually believe we were going to move because my mom talked about moving for 10 years straight. At the end of sophomore year, my mom cut me off from all of my friends who I grew up with, disabled my facebook account, and sheltered my in the house for 5 whole months until I moved because all my friends knew about me. My ex bf ended up wanting me back when I ran into him at the mall about 2 weeks before I moved and my mom said some terrible things to him and

[Frostfire]

You're 18, she has no say in the matter.

[Hermes]

You are 18 years old. You have rights now, she can fight you - she can pitch you out of your house (though I find that inconceivable for a parent and I am the parent of three kids - you can tell her that some parents think she is a disgusting git if she even suggests such a grossly immoral thing - but it is her legal right. ) but she can't stop you. Your mom can refuse to accept you until the end of time - but she cannot stop you from dating who you want. It is no longer her business who you date or love.

I recognize that she has twisted you. She is your mother and you loved her and its become very hard to separate it all out for you - you want to please her and she wants to command you. It is NOT worth it to please her. She doesn't, in my opinion, and I say this as a father, deserve you trying to please her. In my opinion she is disgusting, and honestly I would tell her that to her face if I were on your coast.

Decide what you want, discard all of her teaching on sexuality. Love yourself, LOVE YOURSELF. Love your b/f or whatever future boys you love. Recognize that everything she has ever told you about love, sex and relationships is crap tainted by her prejudice and believe in yourself.

Real family is chosen, not selected by genetics. There are people who will love you for who you are, fully. If you need to talk my email is in my profile.

Kind thoughts,

Hermes